First of all - congrats on the prospect of the new job. It sounds very promising. Myndi and I have fingers, toes, whiskers and paws crossed for you.

As far as the boyfriend issue - I say to go with your instincts and gut feeling on it. If it doesn't feel right at this time, then just keep it on the "just friends" level. And if he doesn't want to be just friends, then perhaps that's a sign that he would not make a good partner. I speak from experience on that one! If you can't be friends first, then it's unlikely that you can be anything more serious. Sure I understand where your friends are coming from when they say to give him a second chance, but only you know all the facts and your feelings behind them. Don't feel guilty and be pressured into something that your heart isn't into at the present time. Who knows - maybe the friendship will re-blossom into a romance in time.

And as far as you saying you don't want to end up alone for the rest of your life. Good grief girl - you're still a kid (what??? - 19 or 20??). You've only just begun to meet guys and consider a serious relationship. Don't settle for the first one - there are so many guys out there looking for the same things in life that you are, and have the same values. You'll meet Mr Right when you least expect it - and yes!!! - you will meet him.