Fister is at the RB - 20/5-96 - 2/2-2013

[pomtzu]

Randi - I believe that it's a good choice you made to have Fister cremated. I have done this with most of my RB cats and dogs, as I too plan to be cremated and take them all with me when I am scattered. They all had "private" cremations, as I wanted only their remains and not that of other pets. If you don't care for the vessel that they put him in, there are many places on line that you can purchase pet cremation urns - just Google it.

My heart still breaks knowing what you are going thru right now. You will find the strength to get thru it and move on (tho differently), in time. Fister will always be in your heart, and that can never be taken away from you.

[Queen of Poop]

Randi, all of my RB babies have been. cremated and are with me. I had and will have again a memory table with them all on it with a fav toy or collar of theirs and of course photos. It gives me peace to have them near.

Sending you a big hug. You are not alone.

[ChrisH]

Randi, I thought of you as soon as I woke this morning and have been throughout the day. I remember only too well how hard it is.

Bobby was the first pet whose ashes I was able to have at home with me and I am so glad he's here, it's a comfort. I believe it is possible to get all sorts of containers but he is in a sealed plain wooden box with a plaque engraved with his name on top and I am happy with that.

Keeping you in my heart and thoughts.

[Randi]

You, who has done this, I can imagine it feels comforting having your dear one near and I feel Fister should be at home with me. Since I don't have a house with garden, that must be the obvious choice.

Chris, I think I remember seeing the box you got for Bobby and that was very nice.

I just don't want some ghastly shiny container.

My neighbor also told about someone who makes jewelry where she puts part of the ashes inside, like a necklace, that also appeals to me in a way.

Will try to find something online to see what the choices are.

[pomtzu]

My neighbor also told about someone who makes jewelry where she puts part of the ashes inside, like a necklace, that also appeals to me in a way.

Randi - PT's own "Glacier" does this - memorial beads as they are called. She made a couple of pieces for me with some of Sparky's ashes. They are quite lovely, and I wear the heart shaped one just about every day.

[ramanth]

Randi, I am so sorry. I saw the post on Facebook and came straight to Cat Health. When I saw it was locked, my heart sank.

My sincerest condolences to you on your loss. Fister was such a handsome guy. Many hugs for you from across the miles.

[Emeraldgreen]

Randi, I think having Fister's ashes will be comforting for you. Even if you don't know exactly what you'll do with the ashes, just having them will give you a chance to find the best idea later on. It's so hard to make clear choices when you're so sad. I have the ashes of all of my previous pets and the plan has always been to sprinkle them around a tree 'when' we find our forever home. But we keep moving so that hasn't happened. So I've been thinking about buying a potted plant or two that could be placed in a garden one day and will sprinke the ashes in there. Maybe you could find a beautiful plant and it could be indoors permanantly and have Fister's ashes be part of it and you can nurture it and watch it grow. And if you ever changed your residence and had a garden at some point, you could have the option of planting it outdoors or just continue on with it being an indoor plant.

Whatever you decide, I hope that it will help make him feel close so that you can heal.

[Randi]

Throughout the day I have felt so down. I also feel...nothing matters anymore. One of the worst things is that I could not spend a few days more with Fister at home - I would have given anything for that! I really had expected I could take home for a few days.

I sometimes doubt if I made the right decision to let him go, but both the vets at the hospital said it was right to let him go - he needed fluids continiously to be comfortable, and as time went by, he would suffer more, they said. I didn't want that. Fister's liver was in a bad way and there were other issues. I just wish Fister could have talked to me and told me what he wanted - although I know that in my heart.

Last week, I had a long and intense cuddle session with him, I'm glad for that.

If it weren't for Fister, I would not have known Pet Talk.

Fister is now with his hero, John, and I know that Pjevs is there, too - and surely Phred is!