Are "thank you" notes a thing of the past

[Freedom]

I always send thank you notes, or at least an email. Have done all my life; even when a friend has me stay with them for a weekend, I send one once home.

Yes, I do think you and I are old fashioned, no one else seems to do this at all any more.

[Taz_Zoee]

While I do not usually send formal thank you notes, I will at least send a text, message on FB or email to the person. Especially if they mailed it, so then they know I received it.
I have several friends (we are in our early 40s) that send the formal thank you notes for gifts all the time.

[gini]

I think that we are all becoming very lazy and rude. I have always sent thank you notes - it is just the way that I was raised. But I do know that people appreciate hearing that you did get their gift (mail, UPS, FedX)
and that you liked it. I hope we don't stop a very nice habit.

[pomtzu]

Unfortunately it seems to be a dying tradition. I always did send thank you notes - driven home to me as a kid by my mother - and I still do. Even now if it's only in the form of an email, I still do it. However, on the recipient side, I almost never get any kind of response. Rude and sad, all wrapped into one! Definitely, change is not always for the good!

I do believe that the posters ages here are showing too!

[gini]

I have been thinking about this thread and I started to laugh. When I was married, my husband and I used to send what I considered to be a goodly amount to his nieces and nephews that lived a distance away from us. We did it on their birthdays and Christmas. We never heard one word - not a peep - no mention ever.

I got tired of not hearing anything because it was a goodly sum which obviously didn't mean anything to them. So I stopped sending checks.

And I never heard a word - not a peep - no mention ever.

[Randi]

Sas, it's gotta be a thing of the past - sadly! If I receive a gift or e-mail or a card, I always send a thank-you note. It may not be right away, but I certainly keep the people in mind and get back eventually. I like to keep in touch with people who think of me and I enjoy keeping in touch with them.

Gini, I think it's extremely rude not to send at least an e-mail to say thank you, when you have given someone a gift.

That said, I haven't replied to everyone yet, who sent me a Christmas card.

[sasvermont]

I have been thinking about this thread and I started to laugh. When I was married, my husband and I used to send what I considered to be a goodly amount to his nieces and nephews that lived a distance away from us. We did it on their birthdays and Christmas. We never heard one word - not a peep - no mention ever.

I got tired of not hearing anything because it was a goodly sum which obviously didn't mean anything to them. So I stopped sending checks.

And I never heard a word - not a peep - no mention ever.

I have a friend who has told her G-kids "no thank you- no more gifts"..... so I decided to DO but not say the same to my niece and nephew and guess what, they don't care one way or the other. So now I send nothing but cards.

On the other hand, my niece's daughter has sent me thank you notes/letters for the dresses I have made for her. My niece's son has not sent a note for the socks I made for him. So, guess what. I am taking the hard line and maybe the younger ones will figure it out.

I think it should be taught in school, as an English lesson. Or writing skills.

Amen. and maybe goodbye to thank you notes.

[cassiesmom]

Goodness, I hope not... I like sending them! Follow up to Taz-Zoee's post: I don't mind receiving them by e-mail or message on FB, not one bit.

I received two Jacquie Lawson e-cards for Christmas and I sent back a thank you e-mail for those. They were both so sweet and thoughtful.

My siblings' children (ages 21 to 30) will sometimes send a one- or two-line thank you e-mail. That's fine with me. They are super busy and I am grateful that they take the time to do that.

I guess my age is showing!