Would they allow you to adopt her on a trial basis so if things didn't work out then you would be able to return her? The shelter sounds pretty bad so you'd probably not want to return her back to it even if things didn't work out. Adopting a younger cat might even be a bit better because younger animals seem to to be able to adapt better to new homes and situations like even being able to ride comfortably in a motorhome.

There are just so many animals in need of homes these days. It's such a sad situation. This is one reason why I expanded my cat family by 5 this year. I adopted 4 of them from the same rescue group through the same foster mom. Reece's brother still hasn't been adopted yet. Colby was the last of his litter to be adopted and he was almost 10 months old when I adopted him. I know we can't save them all but it makes me feel good that I can at least provide a good loving forever home to 5 more cats/kittens in need. I hope that you'll be able to find a cat that will be a good fit to your household. Good luck.