Need help! Anyone Want to Play Therapist?

[mrspunkysmom]

My family is dysfunctional as well, so I can't or shouldn't help. I do have some thoughts. Mom is 90? It should be just her kids on that day. Then others can be invited later. Too many people, it is less about Mom and more about the family.

But since she didn't want a party, a family "reunion" might be the ticket.

Just my take.

[mrspunkysmom]

I agree. I know your heart is in the right place, but I think maybe a 'surprise party' for a 90-year old is not a great idea, in any case. If she doesn't want one, she doesn't want one. Have the "reunion" get-together, instead & maybe a couple of family members could take her for dinner.

(BTW - a lot of women don't like surprises - we need to dress up & get our hair done!)

After several re-reads, I realize you are agreeing with me. Then you are speaking to elizabethann but it sounded like me.

Why am I wrong? I didn't say anything about a surprise party. The owner of the thread did. Please quote and reference the correct person.

I did suggest a re-union for the whole family. I don't think she would object to the whole family getting together, but I don't know her. And sometimes people say they don't want a party just to see if you would do it.