What Karen said.
You are a pet guardian and you need to do what's right for this cat. That means getting her the medical care she needs, including repairing the hernia if that is what needs to be done.. She's not spayed and has hormones coursing through her body all these years; she needs to be spayed if that can be done. Most states require this by age 6 months, so you need to be an adult, take responsibility and get this cat the care she needs. Something has her very upset and as Karen said, you need to address medical issues first.
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