I'm so mad I'm so mad I'm so mad

[Pinot's Mom]

Unfortunately I think these two know EXACTLY what they're doing. My husband and his brother (the 3rd sibling) have allowed this crap to continue for entirely too long. Neither of the brothers wants to be in this (#3 lives in UTAH - he really has no interest). The relationship between my husband and his sister is gone. The biggest casualty is the family. His sister's husband is an opportunist and a shyster (is that a word?) who has taken this family for a ride.

[Catty1]

That is crappy!

Can you sue them?

I hope karma bites them in the butt, big and soon!

[caseysmom]

I think you can force them so sell, it may take hiring an attorney but it sounds like its worth it. Was it in probate or the house has all three of you on it?

[moosmom]

You need to get a lawyer. This is utter BS.

When my stepmother died, my father then put everything in his name and mine (cars, bank accounts, etc.), because her three useless children did nothing to help him care for her. They didn't even visit her!!! When Dad died, my youngest then step sister came outta the woodwork looking for things. My father and I talked about everything, who gets what, etc. He reiterated to me that he didn't NOT want Bab's (ugh!!) children to get any of it. Lynn came looking for her Mom's diamond engagement ring and wedding band my father had given her. I was the one who had to clean out 25 years of stuff from their apt. She was absolutely no help at all. I made her wait till AFTER I was finished cleaning to give it to her. Friends asked me why I gave her anything. I wanted nothing to do with her or her two evil sisters and knew if I had kept them, she'd nag the crap outta me.

I am so sorry you have to go through this. That's why it is SO important to have a will made. That's what I did, knowing how my family of vultures would react. Not that I have anything of value, cuz I don't.

Hang in there Pinot's mom. We're here for ya!!

[Pinot's Mom]

Thank you all. Yes, it is crappy (at best).

Candace and Ellie; you have met my husband, and would fully understand when I say this. Suing his sister, no matter their relationship status would be akin to stabbing himself in the heart. He would sooner endure (which he has) 10 years of having his words twisted, my words twisted, insults and lies hurled at him, having his spineless brother call him constantly to whine about this stupid house (that we wish would get hit by a hurricane and blow away), accusations of all kinds of things; while his sister's husband makes himself out to be a holier than thou 'Christian' who doesn't even respect our Presbyterian faith because we don't 'preach the Bible'. He has also (as has his sister) made his living through the Government, but they came up with a scheme to classify their property as 'agricultural' so they don't have to pay the taxes which paid their salaries. Coop also found, on the last statement of the beach house accounting (which B-I-L handles as 'manager') that they have been misrepresenting the earnings on the house. I have the feeling if this thing is audited, we're all in trouble, but I stay out of it. Coop's got so much to handle; the last thing he needs is a wife nagging him about this as well. I need to be a refuge in this situation. SIGH...

[Catty1]

{{{hugs}}} It as great meeting you and Coop!

You know - it might be the best thing if they did get audited. That way no family member has ratted on another and there is still an authority in charge.

Now, how to anonymously tip off the tax people...

More hugs and I hope this works out soon!

[pomtzu]

Yes Maggie - I can understand what you're saying about Coop, but after 10 years, perhaps he should reconsider those family ties and think of protecting his (and your) backside! If the handling and reporting of related issues to this beach house ever were to be audited, I have no doubt that all owners would be held accountable, and you all could indeed be in deep doo-doo!!! You and Coop have a beautiful home - is it worth even the "possibility" that you could lose it? I know it's easy for me to say this since it's not my family or my issue, but there must be something that can be done. If Coop loses his sister because of it, it will not be on his shoulders. She is the one that created the problem to start with, and continues to perpetuate it, and appears to have no regard for anyone but herself. I'd say it's time to move on. Of course - this is JMHO.

Hugs to you and Coop.........
(you don't mind my Coop hug, do you??)


ETA: Just a thought - but perhaps she doesn't want to sell the house outright, or at least buy you out, because there are less than above-board and even perhaps illegal actions related to the management, and they would surely surface during any kind of sale. Just an idea that popped into my empty head, and maybe I'm off base, but you never know.