I have the same complaint about my stepkids' mother. She ignored them, never sent them gifts or cards. I never met the woman face to face and am glad I haven't because she would have gotten a few choice words. The funny thing is she HAS gotten her payment. None of her kids want anything to do with her. The on who DID want to know her and forge a relationship now refers to her by her first name (and its said with bitterness) and he lets anyone know how he feeels about mommy dearest.

You always reap what you sow when it comes to loving a child. I could never understand how she didn't want to know her kids. They were all different, all good kids. Yeah, we had growing pains while they tried to figure out their way in life, but everyone does. She will never know her kids now. Nothing she will ever say or do will repair their relationship.