I am so sorry to read this. Right now there is nothing you can do but stick to your guns. My sister married an abusive man in her first marriage. I talked and talked to her about this (and so did everyone else I know). Of course, we were all "wrong" and she married him. He used to hit her and what finally helped her "see the light" was that he threatened to hit my niece. It was the hardest thing I ever did, but she finally took responsibility and divorced him. THEN she finally went for counselling ... and the second marriage is sooooo much better.
This is going to be very very difficult for you but it is the best thing you can do for yourselves, Cameron, and the new baby...
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