Thank you all for the replies and encouragement. I think I know what needs to be done, but you're right - I'm afraid to! I keep telling myself, give it a few more months, then I do... Then I say, give it a few more months... Next thing I know it's a year later an I'm still here. It isn't a horrible place to work at, I enjoy my co-workers (for the most part - I do feel I work harder than them for far less praise. For crying out loud someone got a huge thank-you letter displayed publically today for changing the calendars to August.........), and the other doctors are great to work with, it's just my boss...

And another reason why I'm skeptical to leave without saying something to her is because when I applied to my current job (with her) eventhough I did NOT list my current place of employment on my references, she called my boss anyway and didn't tell me she did it. I had to find out from the receptionist at my old job that she had calle to talk to my old boss. That worries me, and makes me worried other doctors will do the same thing.