Rant.

[Roxyluvsme13]

Thank you Carole

I know your mom has not been well, Bri. I wonder if there is some kind of disability from the state or something she could apply for? It would sure take some pressure off her. She'd probably need a letter from a doctor, I would guess.

Prayers that all works out.

I'm glad you're getting along better too.

She could apply for disability, but you have to have a doctor and all of these certifications and everything, and we haven't been able to find her a free doctor around here yet, though I've been looking. She needs one though as she's out of her diabetes medicines, and she kind of REALLY needs those. That could be part of the reason why she's grumpy.

If she started the disability application process, it would take a long time too. You get denied for it at least once before you get it. Could take over a year or more.

[pomtzu]

Bri - Don't take this wrong, but you really need to stop making excuses for your mother. She needs to apply for assistance and see a doctor. I never heard of a FREE doctor, and if she is out of diabetes meds, what's she going to do??? - end up in the local emergency room (if she's lucky and makes it that far)??? And as far as disability goes - well you really don't have that correct. Yes there are forms to fill out, and if she truly is disabled and unable to work and a doctor deems it so, it doesn't mean that she will automatically be denied once, or that it takes a year or more. I've been on disability since I was 61. I was told by Social Security that after my forms were filled out and received and reviewed, that it would probably be 3 months before I heard anything one way or the other. In a matter of 3 weeks I had my approval - and I was never initially denied. Whoever is telling you differently, is giving you a worst case scenario, and your mother will never know anything if she doesn't take action - see a doctor - and get the ball rolling. She has to go to them - they are not going to come to her.

And another thing I don't understand - how are the 2 of you living on only $200 each month. I don't see how that is in any way possible.

[Roxyluvsme13]

Bri - Don't take this wrong, but you really need to stop making excuses for your mother. She needs to apply for assistance and see a doctor. I never heard of a FREE doctor, and if she is out of diabetes meds, what's she going to do??? - end up in the local emergency room (if she's lucky and makes it that far)??? And as far as disability goes - well you really don't have that correct. Yes there are forms to fill out, and if she truly is disabled and unable to work and a doctor deems it so, it doesn't mean that she will automatically be denied once, or that it takes a year or more. I've been on disability since I was 61. I was told by Social Security that after my forms were filled out and received and reviewed, that it would probably be 3 months before I heard anything one way or the other. In a matter of 3 weeks I had my approval - and I was never initially denied. Whoever is telling you differently, is giving you a worst case scenario, and your mother will never know anything if she doesn't take action - see a doctor - and get the ball rolling. She has to go to them - they are not going to come to her.

And another thing I don't understand - how are the 2 of you living on only $200 each month. I don't see how that is in any way possible.

I'm not making excuses for her, I'm just stating how she feels and what she's told me... In the state of Tennessee, every single person is denied for social security disability at least once. My mom was a nurse, knew people then, and we know several people that have applied for it, you are ALWAYS denied at least once. It's just how it happens here. Doesn't matter who you are.

There are free doctors for people that have low income, my mom had one in the place where we used to live. She doesn't qualify for health insurance, or at least free health insurance anymore. I looked into that the other day.

[pomtzu]

Bri - I'm really not trying to argue, but Social Security is federal, and the state would have nothing to do with that. Now if you're talking some kind of state aid/disability, then that's a different matter, and maybe that's the way TN's requirements work. But either way, the longer she waits to do something about it, then the longer she will have to wait if/when she applies. I just hate to see people that are entitled to "something", just sit back and do nothing. Her situation is not going to get better by itself.
Anyway, I really wish both of you some solution before matters get any worse. I really do care............

[Catty1]

Bri - I PM'd you.