Rant.

[Cataholic]

Cataholic,

It COULD be that there was a child support stipulation that IF said child continues their education, then child support continues till they graduate. JMO Thought you might think of it being a lawyer and all.

LOL. Nice one. Really, I am a lawyer. And, as I know Bri's age, and some of the family background, I imagined it was unlikely that the divorce decree would have included support past 18, for school purposes or any other. That is still a fairly new concept, and I would imagine if you took an informal poll, you would find most people don't have that written into their divorce decree.

Course, I knew that since I was a lawyer and all...

[Karen]

LOL. Nice one. Really, I am a lawyer. And, as I know Bri's age, and some of the family background, I imagined it was unlikely that the divorce decree would have included support past 18, for school purposes or any other. That is still a fairly new concept, and I would imagine if you took an informal poll, you would find most people don't have that written into their divorce decree.

Course, I knew that since I was a lawyer and all...

As she said in an earlier post, her father stopped paying child support for ten years while she was still growing up, so the money her mother is getting now is his effort to repay that money they are owed. So it will be for a finite time, until that debt is paid off.

[Cataholic]

As she said in an earlier post, her father stopped paying child support for ten years while she was still growing up, so the money her mother is getting now is his effort to repay that money they are owed. So it will be for a finite time, until that debt is paid off.

Uh, yes, Karen. I know that, now. After I questioned why her mom was getting support payments at 19, Bri explained it, and I read it. I am quite familiar with the term 'arrearage'. LOL.

My response was to Moosmom, with her editorializing. Again. Nice gloss over on that.

[Roxyluvsme13]

I completely agree! Also lots of schools will cover your tuition and room and board if your parents don't have income. If I remember correctly your first year was in a dorm, most likely your college required this, you seemed a lot happier during that time, not trying to judge but face it you do have some pettalk mom's here.

I am not trying to brag or blow my horn but I would and have done whatever I could to keep my kids from worrying about adult crap, they will have plenty of time for that, while they were living at home they were suppose to only worry about school. Even now that my daughters are on their own I try my best to make sure there lives are comfortable and they are doing what they need to do to have good lives.

My schooling/room and board are already covered by loans and grants and stuff like that, so I mean, I'm not paying for anything haha. I get excess money back, like I mentioned before. It's just gone now because I used it to help my mom with bills and things for the animals and things for my car and gas etc etc. And yes, I'm very glad for my PT mommas .

Bri, I don't want to come off as rude or anything but maybe you could at least re-home Brennan? At least for the time you are away. I only say this because I am worried she'll put him outside while you are away and you can't do much about it. Maybe see if his original foster family will keep him for a little while?

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I wish I could take Brennan for awhile. Poor guy Poor you to! You're a good person and you do not deserve this. I agree with the others...your mom has to make the decision to help herself. It may take a real eye-opener to do that... I really hope she does get help in the meantime and I really hope you decide to help yourself. You seem like such a selfless person and I know you don't want to abandon your mom but you need to HELP yourself to. We know you've been looking for a job for awhile and I think you've grown into a very responsible person. PM or FB IM me if you ever need to talk!

I just couldn't do that to Brennan... He's really happy here and he absolutely LOVES me. I told my mom she could tie him out some during the day (which is fine, because he'd be getting exercise and he loves being outside) just as long as she brings him inside, which I think she'll do. It's not like she's going to throw him out in the cold or anything, I'd protest.

And thank you. I don't know what it's going to take for her, but I'll just have to deal with it till she does... thanks, Alyssa . I'll come to you if I ever need to talk for sure.

Cataholic,

It COULD be that there was a child support stipulation that IF said child continues their education, then child support continues till they graduate. JMO Thought you might think of it being a lawyer and all.

Ya know Roxylovesme, it could be your Mom may be going through menopause. A lot of the symptoms you've mentioned are what I went through. Menopause and Depression closely resemble each other. Problem is, if she won't get help, then it's a moot issue.

Good luck kiddo.

Nope, nothing about that in the child support thing, I'm pretty sure. My mom is just making my dad pay anyway, and then all the backpay and everything, so he'll be paying for a while. It'd just be nice if the money was actually mine.

I guess that could be it. But I thought she already went through menopause unless it's an ongoing thing...

When my son and his first wife divorced, child support was mandatory only until their daughter turned 18, then it was finished. However, now that she is in college at a pricey private university. he pays half of her tuition, but it's not mandatory that he do so. Child support was a whole lot less expensive!

That's how mine was set up, but if my dad had paid it like he was supposed to, then he wouldn't be paying it now. His wife (Who nobody likes) really doesn't like that he's still paying us money, but you know, it's his own fault... I wish my dad paid half of my tuition. But I'd never ever see that happening.

[Roxyluvsme13]

I have some good news y'all .

I got called yesterday for a job interview. It's at McDonald's, not my ideal place to work, but I'll take anything at this point. I have to call them back tomorrow and set up an interview time. Hope they don't mind that it took me a couple days to get their message.

Now if I can get this job, somehow get money to keep my phone on and keep gas in my car until then, things might be okay.

[caseysmom]

I have some good news y'all .

I got called yesterday for a job interview. It's at McDonald's, not my ideal place to work, but I'll take anything at this point. I have to call them back tomorrow and set up an interview time. Hope they don't mind that it took me a couple days to get their message.

Now if I can get this job, somehow get money to keep my phone on and keep gas in my car until then, things might be okay.

I think its better if you don't have to work during college, sorry but good news would have been your mom getting a job. But if your happy about it so am I.

[Scooter's Mom]

I hope your job doesn't distract you from your studies. I know the job will help with the immediate needs, but please try to focus on the long term goals. I know that is so hard to do when you have so many things on your plate. The better educated you are, the less often you will ever be faced with these situations in the future. Good luck on the job interview!

[pomtzu]

When my son and his first wife divorced, child support was mandatory only until their daughter turned 18, then it was finished. However, now that she is in college at a pricey private university. he pays half of her tuition, but it's not mandatory that he do so. Child support was a whole lot less expensive!