Rant.

[Cataholic]

You are a good person, Bri. I hate to think of how hard this all must be for you.

[Pembroke_Corgi]

Your situation sounds very stressful, and I know personally how hard it is to worry about money. Your campus probably has free resources for students - have you thought about talking to someone to help you manage your stress levels? I have some problems with managing stress, myself, and tend to get physical manifestations of it when I am really stressed (mainly migraines, which are horrible).

I understand that you want to help your mom; but I think others are right that she has to want to help herself, too. I know as a parent I would do anything within my power to see my daughter happy and successful and I'm sure your mom wants that for you too. You can still be supportive by calling her and seeing her when you can, but maybe it's best if you find another place, like living on campus (which is likely more affordable than an apartment and you will never have to worry about getting to class).

Is there someone else you know (family member or friend) who would be willing to watch your pets in the mean time?

[Roxyluvsme13]

Johanna, I try to be. Sometimes I wonder why I'm so nice.

Your situation sounds very stressful, and I know personally how hard it is to worry about money. Your campus probably has free resources for students - have you thought about talking to someone to help you manage your stress levels? I have some problems with managing stress, myself, and tend to get physical manifestations of it when I am really stressed (mainly migraines, which are horrible).

I understand that you want to help your mom; but I think others are right that she has to want to help herself, too. I know as a parent I would do anything within my power to see my daughter happy and successful and I'm sure your mom wants that for you too. You can still be supportive by calling her and seeing her when you can, but maybe it's best if you find another place, like living on campus (which is likely more affordable than an apartment and you will never have to worry about getting to class).

Is there someone else you know (family member or friend) who would be willing to watch your pets in the mean time?

We do have resources. I'm just not sure how much they've helped me. I don't think I'd be very open about my problems to a complete stranger, even if it would help me.

I know she wants the best for me and is trying to do that, but I don't think she's realizing how much this is upsetting me. How much I hate arguing with her, and how it frustrates me to no end that she won't even try to do anything. And if I even mention it, I've mentioned something about finding a job before, she gets extremely defensive and says "no one is going to hire me" and that sort of thing.

I'm going to live on campus next year, even though my house is only 25 minutes away, I think it'd be best if my mom and I spend some time apart again. Being together 24/7 just doesn't work anymore.

And no, there's no one that would watch the pets :/. My mom doesn't mind taking care of Lily, Domino, and Tallulah, it's just Brennan and Bella she has a problem with... I might have to do something with Bella anyway, because I'm not sure if we're going to be able to keep her, but maybe I can manage something for Brennan so he won't have to suffer while I'm not there too.

Thanks for all the advice

[mrspunkysmom]

Bri,

You're young and although it will be tiring, you'll survive working and college at the same time. I wish you luck in your endeavors. And I hope your mother can start caring for herself. Just hang in there.

[Roxyluvsme13]

I've got to get out of this house... we argue all the time and it's so frustrating. I'm going to go somewhere tonight and hang out with some friends for a little while or something, but I'm kind of afraid to leave. She just almost threw Bella out the front door and is threatening to throw them all out when I'm gone... I don't know what to do.

[caseysmom]

I've got to get out of this house... we argue all the time and it's so frustrating. I'm going to go somewhere tonight and hang out with some friends for a little while or something, but I'm kind of afraid to leave. She just almost threw Bella out the front door and is threatening to throw them all out when I'm gone... I don't know what to do.

Only you know if she is capable of that but it does sound like you both need a break from each other.Years ago a man was at the shelter saying goodbye to his two dogs because his wife threw them out on the street why he was gone and he was giving them up because he knew she would do it again, I hope you mom isn't that cruel.

[Roxyluvsme13]

Only you know if she is capable of that but it does sound like you both need a break from each other.Years ago a man was at the shelter saying goodbye to his two dogs because his wife threw them out on the street why he was gone and he was giving them up because he knew she would do it again, I hope you mom isn't that cruel.

That's horrible . I don't know if she'd be that cruel. I don't think she'd do that to Domino or Lily, or hopefully not Brennan but I worry about Tallulah and Bella because they're the troublemaker cats and Bella came from outside so in my mom's opinion I'm sure she could go back.

My mom and I have been arguing over money and the animals a lot lately, I just actually tried to do something nice for her and she's like "I'm a bad mom, I'm not worth any of this, etc. etc." So now I feel horrible. I just think I need to go spend some time away from her for a few hours. Being on spring break isn't easy with all of this going on and most of my friends being at home hours away.