Sending Dad home tomorrow??? For good.....

**Queen of Poop** · 02-10-2012, 04:10 PM

They sent my dad home for a week this time. He arrived on Monday morning and will go back to the hospital on Monday, Feb 13. My mom apparently didn't want him just dropped in her lap so suggested and the doctor agreed to a one week trial, to include a weekend. So far he's been good, but my mom seems to be somewhat uncomfortable having him there, but she hasn't specifically said why. He's apparently not gone back to his old habits as yet. I continue to check in with her daily to ensure she's ok and all is going as good as it can.

Thanks for continuing to think of us.

**Freedom** · 02-10-2012, 07:20 PM

Hmm, sounds like your mom has to make some tough decisions.
- does she want to live with this man, or not?
- does she want to remain married to him or not?

I think the answer to those 2 questions will help her sort out how to set things up in the future. Unfortunately, she needs to make these decisions soon. Making NO decision IS a decision - to live with him for the future, "until . . . . ."

It may be difficult for her to decide that she does not want to live with him; she will wonder and worry where he WILL live, and really that should not be her concern. But I think it is normal for her to wonder like that.

**Catty1** · 02-11-2012, 11:32 AM

It's no one's fault - but after seeing him get so ill, it will take your mom ages to trust again, if ever. She's likely waiting for the other shoe to drop - not that it will, but I can understand how she would feel. Very scary for her - and maybe for him too.

I would hope at least a social worker or some such would drop in so they could both talk about this situation with the worker present.

Prayers that all works out, even if it takes some time. I would guess it's square one for getting reacquainted; he would seem like a stranger. Have you talked to him at all?

Hugs to you and your mom, Gayle.

**Queen of Poop** · 02-14-2012, 01:46 PM

So the week long visit went ok. Dad took his meds and was well behaved. So, not to waste any time, the social worker called my mom yesterday afternoon (dad just went back yesterday morning) and asked how he did, then, based on the fact that he took his meds and behaved they plan to discharge him and send him home TOMORROW. Mom's ok with this so long as he continues to take the meds and follows the "rules" of his release. Refusing the meds will result in a phone call to the hospital and he will be whisked back there and then a placement will have to be found for him for the duration of his days - or so my Mom says. Will she actually follow thru on that, I don't know. She says this is his one chance, if he blows it he's gone. Ahhh, the stress of this whole thing is making my IBS a nightmare.