Do you hold a grudge?

[Scooter's Mom]

I do not hold grudges. Life is too short.

[RICHARD]

If you do hold a grudge, grab it by the scruff of the neck, that way it cannot rear back and bite you....

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It is a 'guy' thing.

We'd rather yell or punch each other out and get it over with. These days you can go to jail for just mad-dogging a person, so we carry grudges.

[caseysmom]

Not generally but if someone screws me over I don't give them a second chance.

[Karen]

I once heard a saying like "Holding a grudge is like renting space in your heard to a tenant you don't like who's never gonna pay the bill!" I do not hold grudges, never had a cause to. Are there people I don't care if I never hear from again? Sure, but I don't think about them, or bear them any ill will.

[sana]

Yeah.. I hold grudges against "some" people, but, otherwise, mostly I forgive and forget...well, I try my best to People who are I see a lot in my life, I usually don't hold grudges against them, but, people I don't get to meet much, it's easy holding grudges against them, but, I still try not to. People who I see a lot, they do some stuff that makes me feel like hating them, but, then, somewhere they do something that makes me happy and I forgive them. So, well, in conclusion, no I try not to hold grudges. I've kind of stopped holding grudges after I heard "Life's too short for holding grudges" (Thank You pomtzu for that! )

[finn's mom]

No, I don't. The grudge holder is usually the one who suffers the most. I try not to be a glutton for punishment. That's not to say that I let people back into my life if they are a constant negative force. Again, not a glutton for punishment. I forgive people but don't always allow them to be a part of me anymore.

[moosmom]

Life is WAAAAAAY to short to hold grudges. I can forgive but I cannot forget.

[Alysser]

I unfortunately remember alot of what people say if it hurt me that much. I guess I wouldn't say I hold grudges, but I do everything in my power to try and avoid people who have hurt me in the past and so far I've been rather successful.

[beeniesmom]

I don't hold grudges. I get mad, blow up, then it's over.

[kaycountrygal]

It depends on what happened. I dont hold a grudge for a long time UNLESS someone has really hurt me. Then I just make it my business to not see that person again... is that a grudge? Dont know but it works for me LOL.

For silly things I usually vent my anger and then I'm ok.

[kuhio98]

Not generally but if someone screws me over I don't give them a second chance.

I always give someone a second chance. But, I draw the line at a third.

My sister "went off" on me a few years ago and blamed me for practically everything except global warming. A few days later, I called her and she said that she needed to speak to me. She told me that someone had told her that she owed me an apology. I waited. She didn't say anything else so I guess that was my apology.

Two years ago, I took her out for her birthday. She went off on me again and this time threw my mother and brother under the bus. She deliberately tried to damage/sabotage my relationship with them. I'm done waiting for an explanation and/or apology. She is no longer a part of my life.

[Asiel]

No, I really don't have that time or energy. I can get very upset with someone who does something really horrid but I tend to just let it out and blow off steam. I do let the person know my feelings and just get on with things. I never stay mad at anyone longer than a day...only one thing will make me stay mad and I usually just try to keep it out of my mind when all is said and done.

[Sowa]

Yes. I kinda have a big problem with it. I don't know why I just can't let stuff go.

I was in flyball YEARS ago. A guy hit my dog, and I got really upset and left right away. I e-mailed them later and they all said he didn't hit my dog, and I'm probably not cut out for flyball. I still get angry thinking about it. Lots more things as well. I really wish I could let it go, I waste so much energy thinking about things I can't do anything about.

[pomtzu]

I don't normally hold a grudge, but of course there are exceptions to every rule. If a person, by their words or deeds, causes harm of any form to another, then that is unforgivable. I have 2 such individuals in my life that have done precisely that, and they will never be forgiven for the untold misery that they caused, and as far as I'm concerned, they don't exist. And no - my ex isn't one of them.