Do you hold a grudge?

[slick]

99% of the time, no I don't hold a grudge. Cancer taught me that it is a waste of energy and time. However the one exception is my step-sister. She was champion at verbal abuse when I was growing up. I know it's been decades, but in the past I've tried to reconnect, but it's just not there. It's been over 10 years since I've seen her and that's just fine with me.

[Trinityagain]

Slick, it is funny that you mention that. I think the one grudge I do hold is against my oldest sister. There are 6 of us in the family (I'm the baby) and the rest of us have agreed that evidently she lived a completely different life than we did. She has made some comments about my parents that I will honestly never forgive or forget. So I guess I do know how to hold a grudge. The fact that she lives on the other coast makes it easy, no contact.

[Scooter's Mom]

I do not hold grudges. Life is too short.

[RICHARD]

If you do hold a grudge, grab it by the scruff of the neck, that way it cannot rear back and bite you....

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It is a 'guy' thing.

We'd rather yell or punch each other out and get it over with. These days you can go to jail for just mad-dogging a person, so we carry grudges.

[caseysmom]

Not generally but if someone screws me over I don't give them a second chance.

[Karen]

I once heard a saying like "Holding a grudge is like renting space in your heard to a tenant you don't like who's never gonna pay the bill!" I do not hold grudges, never had a cause to. Are there people I don't care if I never hear from again? Sure, but I don't think about them, or bear them any ill will.

[sana]

Yeah.. I hold grudges against "some" people, but, otherwise, mostly I forgive and forget...well, I try my best to People who are I see a lot in my life, I usually don't hold grudges against them, but, people I don't get to meet much, it's easy holding grudges against them, but, I still try not to. People who I see a lot, they do some stuff that makes me feel like hating them, but, then, somewhere they do something that makes me happy and I forgive them. So, well, in conclusion, no I try not to hold grudges. I've kind of stopped holding grudges after I heard "Life's too short for holding grudges" (Thank You pomtzu for that! )

[kuhio98]

Not generally but if someone screws me over I don't give them a second chance.

I always give someone a second chance. But, I draw the line at a third.

My sister "went off" on me a few years ago and blamed me for practically everything except global warming. A few days later, I called her and she said that she needed to speak to me. She told me that someone had told her that she owed me an apology. I waited. She didn't say anything else so I guess that was my apology.

Two years ago, I took her out for her birthday. She went off on me again and this time threw my mother and brother under the bus. She deliberately tried to damage/sabotage my relationship with them. I'm done waiting for an explanation and/or apology. She is no longer a part of my life.

[Asiel]

No, I really don't have that time or energy. I can get very upset with someone who does something really horrid but I tend to just let it out and blow off steam. I do let the person know my feelings and just get on with things. I never stay mad at anyone longer than a day...only one thing will make me stay mad and I usually just try to keep it out of my mind when all is said and done.