Thank you all for the great responses so far... I'm very lucky to have a very organized husband who makes sure to catalogue all of our paperwork! That's a great idea to have our vet(s) actually write down that he should stay with us. I think with her a firm "no" is what she needs.

And Cataholic, I think you may be onto something haha... I think because we've been friends since grade school makes me want to always be there for her, but she does have a strong reputation amongst our friends as being one of the flakiest people I have ever met!