Love the pics!! I'm very fond of tuxies myself, as I have two (a black and white and a grey and white). Your Shadow is just so handsome, how could someone not like him??!! Just seeing his little face in the first picture made me smile!

I hope things get worked out with the friend of the boyfriend. If he wants to remain friends, and be welcome in your house, he better get used to being around and being nice to your cat!