Major LIFE CHANGES making life a mess UPDATED #19

**jennielynn1970** · 09-06-2011, 04:26 PM

Originally Posted by sasvermont

Sorry to hear about your stressed out life. Any chance of changing school districts or working at a private school?

All the districts in the area are in the same shape as ours. PA is in sad shape educationally because of cuts that Tom Corbett has made to our schools.

And what about that boyfriend? Wow. I would trade him in for a new model! What's with that? He seems to be part of the problem and not helping resolve the problem.

I hate to even tell him when I have a migraine. "Did you go to school?? Are you telling me the truth?" He threatens to leave me and just be by himself. He says he doesn't want to end up in an economically disadvantaged relationship, and with someone who is just going to let her life disintegrate around herself because of medical problems. I'm sorry I have medical problems that are more than I can handle at the moment. Between migraines and stress and anxiety, I'm a wreck.

One thing at a time. Once your job situation settles down, I would consider a heart to heart with what's his name and decided if he should stay or go.

Sounds like a plan. We've had so many heart to hearts through, and I just feel like he wants to run when ever I have a bad day. I never run out when he had a bad day. If anything I ask what I can do to make things better.

Does your school have a union? If so, what do they say about all this job switching etc?

At this point, they'll just tell me be glad I have a job. 168 members lost theirs. I'm lucky. I still have mine. I just need to be able to get my migraines under control, not take a medical leave (that would be disastrous to my record at the moment), and get things leveled out. I just wish I knew how to do this all quickly!!!

Hope you feel better soon and things begin to settle down for you.

Thank you!!!

**phesina** · 09-06-2011, 04:53 PM

Oh, Jenn, I am so sorry you are going through such a hard, stressful time. My cats are all sending you purrs and headbumpies of comfort, and I'm sending you great big {{{{{{{{{{{HUGGGGGS}}}}}}}}}}}. We all wish we could deliver these in person or in purrrson!

{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}} and ~~~~~~~PURRS~~~~~~~ and

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Pat, Sydney, Poppy, Elmer, Bob, Sparkler, Lavinia, and Princess Poppaea Sabina Eugenia

**Karen** · 09-06-2011, 05:43 PM

You'll be in our prayers. I love elementary-school kids, they can be so much more open to ideas and good books than middle school, when they are trying so hard to be like the teenagers they see! I will pray that your migraines go away, and if it causes you less stress, stop thinking of you-know-who as your boyfriend, think of him some guy you know, so you don't have to care so much what he thinks, okay?

One good stress-reducer I have taught a few people - take a clean piece of paper and a pen or pencil - whatever you have handy, and makes you feel better. Start a list at the top of the pages of all the things you hate. Your can start with migraines, mine usually started with canned peas. You can put silly things - like finding cat vomit with your bare foot, and go on to more complex or maddening things as you go on. Usually by the end of the list I felt better, but there's also a chance to either crumple it up afterwards (always satisfying) and toss it for the cats to play with (hee hee Suzie cat is carrying off my migraines!) or light a candle and burn it, watching all those hated things go up in smoke!

**Scooter's Mom** · 09-06-2011, 08:18 PM

You know I've had chronic migraines (definition of chronic migraines is 15+ days per month) for over 9 years. It took quite a few years before my hubby realized I wasn't just being lazy and sitting on my butt.

What Dave needs to understand is this is a medical condition, and is in no way shape or form something that you have caused. I understand you don't want to be alone, but sweetie, you are better being alone than being with a man who treats you as an inferior because of a medical condition that you have no control over.

Have you tried massages? I know they're expensive, but maybe a massage every other week would help balance the missing pay... I know several people who've had good luck with going to a chiropractor. None of these things help ME, but they work for some people.

You can always pm me here or on facebook. I've got my cell # on facebook too, if you ever need to just complain to someone who's not only been there, but lives there, with the migraines. ((hugs)) to you, but little ones, because I know!

**Marigold2** · 09-06-2011, 08:46 PM

I know this will sound trite. But you just have to learn to let it go. It is just a job. And yes I understand pressure from work, but I have learned that it is just a job. I have family, friends, children, fur and human and lots of fun to have. I refuse to let the job make me nuts.
Go in, do your best and leave it behind.. Much harder said then done, it takes practice but it comes easier with time.
Try to have someting to look forward to when work is done, EVERYNIGHT.
Makes a world of difference.
Best of luck.
Oh and if your boyfriend is being a %ick about your headache, time to get a new man who treats you better.