What am I not doing?

[K9soul]

I can empathize in how it would be uncomfortable to have people scrutinizing what you are or aren't doing, what you should or shouldn't do. That's a reason I like to read articles and books a lot. They aren't personally looking at me and saying "Ah! that's not the way!" . I have no doubts that you're a very caring dog mom.

[wolf_Q]

When all of my dogs were puppies I put my hand in their bowl every so often to get them used to me being around them with food...fed them from my hand...never dealt with the growling issue but I can say none of my dogs are food aggressive with people at all. They can be brats about sharing with other dogs though. I could take a steak out of their mouths and they would be okay with it. One thing I did that may help is a lot of times when I put my hand in their food dish I'd be adding a treat to their dish too. So me putting my hand in their food was often a positive thing for them. You may have said you already tried that I didn't read all of the responses so sorry if somebody mentioned that already.

[MonicanHonda]

Feeding from your hand isn't bad. I know many many people, and I would do the same if I fed kibble, that make the dogs work for every piece of their kibble. Throughout the day, using their kibble as treats in small training sessions. Or feeding half the allotted amount and using the other half for training sessions.

Don't worry, there are lots of ways to deal with things and someone will always find something wrong. But then that means someone will always find what you're doing right. :-D Lol