I saw my 44 year old mother suffer so from lung cancer. My father, rather than put Mom in a hospital, was her main caregiver. She died 10 months after being diagnosed. It was sheer hell for the whole family.

I am FULLY prepared to check out if things get too bad. I have tried to talk to my daughter about "things" and she refuses to, I guess because she came so close to dying herself. I've made a list of where my cats should go, as well as a living will and a Last Will and Testament. My BFF has a copy of everything, as well as all passwords, PIN numbers, etc. There will be no arguing over me and what should happen, should I not be able to make decisions on my own. I saw what my family went through with my Mom, as well as my aunts, and there will be absolutely NO QUESTION of what my wishes were.