Noise intolerance, hyperacusis: totally stressed

[krazyaboutkatz]

I'm so sorry to hear this. I've found that as I've gotten older that I can't tolerate noise the way I used to or crowds either. I'm very surprised that others don't feel bothered about it the way you do especially the noise during the night. I've had to sleep with earplugs for years now and now I can't sleep without them. I hope you can find something that will help you either get rid of the noise or be able to tolerate the noise better. Good luck.

[Vette]

Sorry to hear of your distress. *hug* when i dont sleep well... its not pretty. so you have my sympathies.

what about trying out a box fan in your window/s?

my brother has a couple of them an they buffer the noise from the outside. only problem is is create a constant danged noise themself...

[Kirsten]

Thanks for all the advice and support. It's really a stressful time and I'm feeling burnt out. Over the last couple of days, the kids have started playing soccer in the evening, usually till 10 pm! And they're screaming so loudly while they are doing this. I can't believe that I'm currently sitting here waiting for the thunderstorms they have predicted, hoping that would make them disappear.

The worst thing is (apart from the stress and the fact that I cannot do the things I need to do to relax) that I cannot stand myself, being like this. Everyone must just think I'm a child hater or a grumpy old woman. I wish I wasn't like that. I heard that people with thyroid conditions are often overly sensitive to noise, so maybe it's because of that, I don't know..

But it's like some of you have said: I really can't believe that others are NOT disturbed by the noise! I cannot understand how you can NOT be.

[Karen]

But it's like some of you have said: I really can't believe that others are NOT disturbed by the noise! I cannot understand how you can NOT be.

Kirsten, not everyone has the same level of hearing. Paul and I are a good example.

All his life Paul has had excellent hearing, so has been more sensitive to loud noise than others. The one "rock" concert he went to with me was too painful for him to enjoy, and it was soft rock at best! I, even before I had the surgery that left me half deaf, have never been bothered by loud noise. I grew up in a noisy household, my mother taught piano and we all played different musical instruments, and there were 4 of us kids, too. So I grew up tolerant of it all. Now, of course, I hear on only one side, so loud noises are even softer if they happen to my right.

When I was a child, after we were all in bed for the night, my mother would often sit and play the piano - maybe just to remind herself what the instrument was supposed to sound like! So I can fall asleep to music, even find that pleasant to do.

I am guessing you hearings is much more sensitive than normal people, and your physical illness makes it even less comfortable, sadly. But I do think noise-cancelling headphones might help you.

[pomtzu]

I can understand how you feel, but fortunately I don't have to deal with it. I live in the country where houses are far apart and the kids have acreage to play on. Besides, there are no kids in my vicinity anyway. I could never live in the suburbs, let alone the city, since I need my space and wouldn't have it there, and the noise and congestion would be more than I would care to deal with.

Some people don't mind the noise - they just tune it out and are used to doing so, since they probably have, or did have kids at one time, and it's just something you learn to do. It all comes down to a way of maintaining your sanity!

Now that there are no small children for me to deal with, I feel silence is not all that golden for me. I hate it! I have to have a t.v. or radio on all the time - just for the sound. The way I figure it - silence will come to me one day - so I'd better enjoy the sounds while I can!

But the sounds you are having to deal with are not of your choosing, so I understand your frustration. Wish I had a suggestion for you. Any way you could put an air conditioner in the window - that way the windows could stay closed and you wouldn't suffocate from the heat. Just a thought.....

[GrandChester]

I talked about this with my boyfriend a few days ago when we were dining out. The kids with those high pitched blood curdling screams are the worst. I sure do feel bad for you. I don't understand why parents or guardians put up with such noise levels. We were all kids once but I never remember screaming and carrying on like that. I dont remember any of my playmates like that either. Too bad you dont have a quiet summer home to go to.
You have my sympathy dear.

[Kirsten]

When I was a child, after we were all in bed for the night, my mother would often sit and play the piano - maybe just to remind herself what the instrument was supposed to sound like! So I can fall asleep to music, even find that pleasant to do.

Yes, that might have a lot to do with it. I grew up in a small family, and it was always quiet in my room at night. When I still went to school, I could never have the radio or tv on while doing homework, I felt disturbed by it. When I moved out, I was 20, and I always lived on my own. Maybe that's why I'm just not used to it. I always hated it when I heard the neighbors making noise, even when I still lived in my old apartment. It was one of the reasons I moved.

I could never live in the suburbs, let alone the city, since I need my space and wouldn't have it there, and the noise and congestion would be more than I would care to deal with.

Congestion is another thing, and maybe it's making things worse. I'm actually a loner and I need my private space, and I hate the thought that other people are so close (even if I don't see them). Sometimes the very thought of it makes me feel claustrophobic. I think I'm actually not made for living in overcrowded areas. Maybe this is why I cannot stand other peoples' noise. I don't mind the sounds of nature; actually, I love them. Nothing more relaxing that listening to the wind, or the rain, or thunder...

The kids with those high pitched blood curdling screams are the worst.

I agree!! There is this one girl in my neighborhood; not only that she has a very high-pitched voice, she's screaming and squealing all the time. Makes my own vocal cords hurt just to listen to it! I was hoping her voice would get a little lower when she's older, but she's 9 years old by now, and her voice is still the same.

We were all kids once but I never remember screaming and carrying on like that. I dont remember any of my playmates like that either.

I didn't grow up like that, either! And we were never allowed to play outside that late!

[Karen]

I was hoping her voice would get a little lower when she's older, but she's 9 years old by now, and her voice is still the same.
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It'll likely be a least a couple more years before her voice changes, if it ever does! Just FYI.

[Catty1]

Kirsten, if you are on disability now, is there any way for a doctor to write a letter or etc so you can qualify for affordable adult-only housing?

{{{hugs}}}

[Kirsten]

Again, thanks a lot for all your advice, it's very appreciated. As for white nose machines and air conditioners, it all depends on the costs, not only the costs for the machine itself, but also for the electricity they need. Energy is VERY expensive in Germany, it really is; and I'm already paying way too much as my apartment is badly isolated. And since I'm no longer working, I'm really poor now, not kidding...

It'll likely be a least a couple more years before her voice changes, if it ever does! Just FYI.

I would be glad if she would at least stop that screaming; something you'd think you could expect from a 9-year-old.

Kirsten, if you are on disability now, is there any way for a doctor to write a letter or etc so you can qualify for affordable adult-only housing?

No, I don't think there is such a thing in Germany, only old people's homes, and I'm not that old. lol

Kirsten I can so relate to what you are going through. Have you been checked by a doctor ? I have vestibular hyperacusis, caused by a severe head trauma when I was a child and I have major trouble with noise myself. We also in the country and I would never dream of living anywhere else. We used to live in town and the noise from regular everyday things bothered me no end. Since moving here 20 yrs ago it's like living in another world. Everything is super quiet, no subdivisions , everyone lives on acreage so any mowing or regular noise is so far away it doesn't bother me. All I hear are the sounds of nature which is a treat for me.

No, that hasn't been checked yet, but I will ask my doc. Thanks for telling me about it. Your home sounds like a dream to me, I would love to live in such a place!

I live in the suburbs and it's not really a loud neighborhood but there is a small airport and Boeing plant a few miles away from me. When I moved in 27 years ago, they didn't test planes at night and a small plane going overhead was very rare. Now my Saturdays are punctuated with plane after plane going over, commuters planes on weekdays, and planes being tested at night - those roars really travel on the night air.

That's another thing, they're building a big airport now in Kassel (30 km away), and the route for the landing planes will be right over my hometown. As far as I know, this also includes night flights. Is there any chance to get used to it? I hope that airport won't make things worse for me.

I fear that the house next to mine will be sold soon. My biggest fear is that a family with kids will move in. I know, not all kids are miserable to be around, but the house next to mine is in poor shape and I suspect some low life will buy it....

Ugh, that would be awful! Keeping my fingers crossed that this won't happen.

I thought of another example, Kirsten. Paul cannot stand wind chimes, and finds them horrible and discordant.

I actually love the sound of mine. It's funny that even with over sensitive hearing, we still have our own personal likes and dislikes, isn't it?