Does anyone NOT know how to be a friend anymore?

[chocolatepuppy]

I've got my work friends, but not a lot of contact outside of work. I have my online friends. I spend most of my time alone with my furkids.
Seems everybody, including myself, are just too busy these days and when I'm not working, I prefer to be home with my furkids.

[Queen of Poop]

Raises hand to join the group.

Since I left my horrible husband I've spent the majority of my time alone. I hear from my "friends" when it's convenient for them. Plans made always fall thru for one reason or another, but not on my part.

Like today, had a plan to meet a girlfriend at 11, she called about 10:20 and said let's meet at 1. Then called and said let's meet at 12:45, she showed at 1. By this time I'm pretty crabby about the whole thing so the shopping was not fun and I couldn't wait to be done.

I thank God for my friends here. Always someone to chat with, someone who understands. I love you guys. You're my sanity.

[Alysser]

It's funny. I look back 6 years ago and see who I knew in 7th grade and who I know now. Back then, what I know now about certain people would have shocked me. I thought I had met my life-time friends back then, and for some of them I guess that was true. I still "know" alot of them, I would hang out with some of them, but I just don't feel the way I used to about them anymore. I've finally fizzled out who my true friends are over the past 2 years and it really is amazing. After I graduate in a few months, I know I won't talk to some of them anymore, but I know who I will talk to, who I'll chill with, etc. It's just so strange how people change. But sometimes it's for the better You really do find out who your friends are.

I'm sorry about your "friends" bailing out on you. I totally know how that is. I hope you know you DO have friends here at PT who totally understand where you're coming from and are here to talk.

[Taz_Zoee]

Raising my hand and also joining the group!!

Just the other night Bruce's friend, who recently ended his engagement, asked Bruce to have me bring a friend to dinner. I thought about that and finally realized I don't really have any friends that I "hang out" with. All my work friends are married, live too far away or are too young and don't want to hang out with an "old lady".
I have friends from high school that I am still in contact with, but they live back home. I don't even see them when I go to my parents house (and one lives right down the street from my parents). They have children that are in sports and are way too busy.

I really wish I had someone to go shopping with. Even though I HATE shopping, it would be much more bearable to go with a friend. All of my clothes have holes in them and are just worn out. My mom said to plan a weekend and she'd go with me. So that's what I will do! My time is basically spent with Bruce and the animals. Or my mom, SIL and nieces. But you know what? I LOVE it!! Sometimes "friends" can be too much work. I love catching up with someone I haven't seen in a long time, sure. But I'm just as happy staying home.

Oh, I also wish I had a work-out buddy. I miss my work-out partners from when I lived at home. I was so darn skinny back then!!

Too bad we don't live closer Rachael, I'd hang out with you! If you wouldn't mind hanging out with the "old lady".

[Roxyluvsme13]

Totally feel you, Rachel. So sorry your friends are bailing on you.

I'm a shy person and I have a hard time making friends, and when I do make friends, most of them end up not being my friend later on down the road for some ridiculous reason.

I had a group of "Friends" in high school who were supposed to be my "best friends" and everything. Well, my real best friend in high school told me she didn't like the way they treated me, and I'm not sure why I didn't listen to her then. So, we graduated and things were okay, I thought, though they told me they "didn't want me to go on their graduation trip" which was hurtful. Anyway, I was a nicer person and I tried to invite them to my birthday party last year, tried to hang out with them last summer, they wouldn't have anything to do with me. So, it's been over a year without them and I couldn't be happier. I have amazing friends here in college that I've known for a very short time and are already way higher on my list than those petty high school friends ever were.

[Scooter's Mom]

I don't have many "real life" friends in Phoenix, even though I've lived here since 1999. I have a couple of people I associate with through work. It seems that all of my "real life" friends are back in Texas, where I grew up. I still talk to them through facebook (which is a godsend) and email.

I do have one person other than my husband, who would go to the ends of the earth for me. My best friend, Kat. I am forever thankful for God putting her in my life when we were in High School. We have not always had 'good times' but we've made it.

I do have a few "online" friends that I love dearly. It's much easier to make friends online than in the real world, I think.

Sorry for babbling... just kind of agreeing with everyone.

[dab_20]

I know exactly how you feel. Exactly. I mean, I'm usually not alone. I hang out with my boyfriend, my brother is a close friend of mine and my mom. But any girlfriends my age? None. Other than "friends" at school and work, that I really never hang out with, just talk to while I'm there. It's frustrating. Even in high school, my friends were constantly bailing on me and talking behind each others backs. It's annoying and I was sick of it.

My family and boyfriend are my support. However, I still long to have a "best" girlfriend that I can vent to and share everything with. I had the best of friends in junior high that I had known since I was five. Then I moved to Utah. I never really got friends like I had before. Becoming "friends" with those I knew from MN on facebook has only made me sad about it. Seeing my friends pictures of prom, dating people I had known, all the fun times I could've had with them. Sigh, it's depressing lol!

However, I am happy with the direction my life is going. I'm happy with who I have become and the people in my life. I figure you don't need those types of "friends". You need positive people in your life who love and support you. Whether that is a boyfriend or family, pets or just people you know on the internet!

[K9karen]

I'm scared to step out of line here.

I've had a best friend for about 53 years. Never fight, talk 2-3x a day with hello or checking in or some kind of news. My neighbor calls me all the time, and visa versa, again, hello, or do you need help? 3 other besties, I worked with. We've introduced each other and now we all hang out with, along with our partners. Not often, but on the girls' birthdays and around the holidays. One phone call, and we are there for each other.
I'm blessed and grateful. My niece, who I helped raise, I refer to her sometimes as my daughter, is grown up with a family and we talk at least 3x a week and get together.

I have lots of acquaintences. I make friends easily. There are people on PT whom I consider really good friends, but distance keeps us aprt.

I think people are overly stressed and busy these days, and focused on themselves. Maybe the differrence is that my gf's are older and settled. I didn't have many friends in high school or in my 20's. IMO, CW, when you get settled, and find the perfect job for you, you'll meet some really nice people. Again, kust my opinion. Life was bleak in my 20's compared to now. Getting old(er) wasn't that bad afterall.