Originally posted by ChrisH
I do have a theory. I don`t think she is scared or nervous, I think she just wants to do things her way, full stop. I either fit in with it or not, she doesn`t care.
Welcome to cat "parenthood." You've hit the nail right on the head with that one. It can be frustrating, but I'm sure she'll come around. Sounds like she is just making sure that everyone knows who is queen of the household.

I agree with SAS. Just remove all barriers and let things happen. Sounds like Bob already knows she's queenie, and I wouldn't be surprised if they end up being best of buds.

Just keep up with the patience and things will all sort themselves out. Just be sure and keep notes to fill us in on all the details, and pictures are always welcomed.