Donna, I'm sorry you have such a difficult relationship with your brother. But I have to say you are so lucky you can have one at all, difficult or not. It's this time of year that makes me miss my deceased brother and sister terribly. I don't get to have those sibling squabbles, haven't for 24 years now and it still hurts. Hugs for you my dear, you're doing all the right things, if he doesn't want to hear about it he shouldn't ask. Please go give that big tuxy boy a hug, you'll feel better instantly!