This is my quandry.

[mrspunkysmom]

My youngest brother has the house we grew up in. The other brother and I didn't care for it but didn't want it to go to strangers. We each got something through survivorships. Joe and I decided which of her stuff could go to whom. Only bad part was that John just took her jewelry and photos without permission. ARGH! I was the executrix, but let Joe handle it. I was satisfied with stuff as it was, so the rest didn't matter. Out of state is just too far to deal with that stuff.

I do sympathize, Richard.

When I retire, I am considering moving back home and I will try to find a place near my brother Joe.

[lizbud]

I would like to see someone make a higher bid on the house.

Not for the money, it's not about making money, somehow I feel a small pang of guilt-I don't think my parents worked so hard to let their investments go for way under the value of the blood, sweat and tears they put into them. I just want a few more days in the house I grew up in.

Richard, Your parents are long past caring about the house now. They
must have wanted you & your siblings to be happy & cared for while you
were all living there and it sounds like you did have happy times there.

Do you have a new place lined up yet? Moving is hard, I know, but don't
wait until you are forced to do it on somebody else's timetable.You won't
lose the good memories, just pack them up with your stuff before you go.

[RICHARD]

Richard, Your parents are long past caring about the house now. They
must have wanted you & your siblings to be happy & cared for while you
were all living there and it sounds like you did have happy times there.

Do you have a new place lined up yet? Moving is hard, I know, but don't
wait until you are forced to do it on somebody else's timetable.You won't
lose the good memories, just pack them up with your stuff before you go.

Thanks for the advice.

I am going to ask for 30 days after the court date, if not at least until the end of the year. I have also thought about 'squatting' until at least the last half of January.


I do have a place to go and am excited about it. It's a huge, long move and I am waiting to 'make it official'. I do not want to jinx myself! If I am allowed to stay until then (Jan 17) I just have to find a temp place for a week, then I can make the move.

Thanks again.

[lizbud]

Thanks for the advice.

I am going to ask for 30 days after the court date, if not at least until the end of the year. I have also thought about 'squatting' until at least the last half of January.


I do have a place to go and am excited about it. It's a huge, long move and I am waiting to 'make it official'. I do not want to jinx myself! If I am allowed to stay until then (Jan 17) I just have to find a temp place for a week, then I can make the move.

Thanks again.

Since I'm a old fart & now retired, advice is about all I have to give.

Sounds like you do have a plan & I hope this all works out for you & Ed.

[caseysmom]

Richard your a sentimental soul like myself. Hang on to a few things that remind you of your parents. It will be enough after the wounds heal. I have a few things around the house that make me smile, my sister would cringe to have them in her perfect home

[DJFyrewolf36]

It is situations like this that make me want to pack my house with a large amount of explosives and take it all with me when I get old, then they can put a marker at the bottom of the hole.

It isn't much but at least I'll leave a lasting impression.

Seriously though, I hope I can teach my son someday that money isn't everything and that memories really are what life is all about. When my grandmother died, I was actually impressed with how my dad and his sister handled it. No bickering, no BS and fences were mended for the sake of making it easier on everyone...and also to respect my grandmothers memory. I hope that when the day comes that myself and my brothers have to deal with difficult things, we can be just as civil to each other.

(((HUGS))) I'm glad everything is settling down a little at least!

[RICHARD]

OH ME DEAR LORD!!!!

Wowza!

I am so freaking giddy at the moment that I am totally out of control.

Today was a weird day.

IT was the anny of my mom's passing and I spent part of the day with my brother and sister. We went to the cemetary and spent some time there talking and 'arguing'. Not the real irritating stuff, just enough to disagree and get stuff off our chest.

We got together yesterday for my brother's birthday and talked about the rental property and the money that my brother, "M" has been collecting.

I am of the mind to let the matter rest until we go to court, but they wanted to find out exactly what was going on w/the cash.

They went to talk to the tenants to see where the cash was going-the county asked that the money be sent to them to go towards the estate.

It seems that my brother cut a deal with the renter's to send HALF the payment to the county and give him the other half 'under the table' so that they could stay on.

Not exactly a smart thing to do. Can you say "moron"?

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I got home and was sitting down drained from the news and spending time with the family.

I settled in and decided to watch a movie.

About 45 minutes into it I heard someone at the gate and thought, "EFF, more people looking to buy the house".

I wanted to say screw it and lay back down but something told me to get up and go out.

I saw two guys standing there and I explained the deal with the sale and there would be an post auction - auction on the 17th.

He explained he looked at the property on line and was VERY interested in making a bid.

He wanted to look at the back yard and I hesitated to show it to him.

I explained that I would give him a tour next Saturday if he wanted, but he was insistent, but in a good way.

He asked how long I had lived here and I told him off-and-on for 50 years. I explained how it went on the market and mentioned that today was the anny of my mom's death. He told me that he wanted to make a bid on the property, after he listened for a moment he stated that he wanted to "make it right" and make an offer over what the initial bid was. He then asked me if I wanted I COULD RENT IT after he purchased it.:eek


I was going to plan on moving out in January, but if he purchases it that will give me a place to stay until March, so I can delya my move and not have to worry about the ancillary stuff!!!!!

I did allow him onto the property and he looked at it and was very satisfied,
I told I was in the process of cleaning it out for the next tenant if I had to move out.

I know, You cannot believe anything that you hear these days but I told him I would talk to the rest of my sibs about it and see what his proposal was on the day of the auction and speak to him then.


Wow, If things work out this may cause a bidding war. The bad part?

He may lose the house to someone who wants to offer more, but that means a higher bid for the property, but, if he is true to his word?

IT means a higher bid and I get to stay on for a little longer!


what a roller coaster ride!!!!!

So, think good thoughts and pray for me!!!


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On a sad note?

My niece's dog passed away almost at the same time my mom passed away two years ago?

[Karen]

Awww, our prayers will be with you.

[phesina]

Prayers for you, Richard, that this works out. This sounds like a great prospect!

[moosmom]

Oh RICHARD that is wonderful that you'll be able to stay in the house, even if it is just renting it.

I went by my old childhood home and saw a "For Sale" sign. I was so upset that someone would have the nerve to sell MY house. Asking price??? $244,000!!

[momoffuzzyfaces]

I have a feeling it will work out for you, just hang in there. Is there any way you can, um, mention to the ones handling the estate (the county) about your brother's deal with the renters? At the very least, the rent he kept should come out of his share of the money from the sale of the houses.
Fingers crossed and prayers still flying from me for you and Ed and your out door buddies too.

[Catty1]

That would be wonderful, RICHARD, if you could stay...and spend more time with your frens.

[Medusa]

Hmmm, just in time for the new moon and Law of Abundance on Sunday. Just a coinkydinky? I think not.

[RICHARD]

Hmmm, just in time for the new moon and Law of Abundance on Sunday. Just a coinkydinky? I think not.

Oh, hall no!

[RICHARD]

Three more sets of people came to see the house today.

The last one was the real estate agent that wanted to show the house to his clients, he came by a month ago and told me he knew my dad.

At that time, I told him that I was not going to let him see the house because I offered to show it to him on MY terms- He was the one that showed up in a Saturday afternoon and wanted me to drop everything and show him the place with 15 minutes notice.

I told him that I was sorry - I DID offer him to see the place (he toured it on the day of the open house) a week later, My friends were going to take me out for my b-day that night and had no time to do it at that moment. He declined, He wanted to see it NOW.

The then gave me the "It's more money for for you..." trip and said to him,
"Look if you want the house, bid on it on the 17th, someone had offered to buy it and rent it to me after, so come up with a better offer and it's yours."


I understand that people have to hustle to make a buck these days but this guy was something else.

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Here's a question.

When I mentioned this guy to my sister she was vehement about complaining about him. To me, he's just a pest that's looking to sell the house and make his commission on top of the realty/auction house.

She wants me to call everyone and complain, I am of the mind to just let him do his thing. If he wants to bid and wins the house, great.

But, do I drop a dime on him to my lawyer?

What say you?