it is hard to not take a setback personally (I know that I have in the past) but it is a learning experience for her and she is deciding how to deal with it. Each time she comes across the same "problem" she will handle it better and recover faster.

How do I kow this????? Calvin has lived through many setbacks,some so severe that I cried, but he always bounces back and faster each time. (our next hurdle is the vet's office, I think we will be dissappointed again)