Gosh, Isabel, MY head is reeling, just reading and imagining all you are going through. I am sorry this "blew up" as it did.

One thing you learned: don't volunteer info to them. Thy asked when you are taking the car, say as soon as your things arrive, whatever. But volunteering that you plan to sell it, that jut started another issue. They don't need to know. This is not easy to do, it is in our nature to chat with folks about our plans. Not with these people, at least not for a while. Protect yourself, limit the things they can "jump" on.

I think of you multiple times daily, and pray for you as often. Hang in there, Isabel.