This is my quandry.

[RICHARD]

We have decided to sell the house.

The financial turnover was just too great for us to bear.

IT would not have been fair to me or my sibs to make an offer, had we had the familial numbers-we were looking at a three to three tie with the sibs- or had my brother and sister been more patient with what happened we would have been in better shape...

My proposal was to sell the rental, pay mom's bills split a little money and put the house in everyone's name. Had that happened anyone could have borrowed against their piece of the house if they needed cash.

With a signed note of course.

But, my sister and brother had to start freaking out after my mom died. I had not even the time to get my head out of my rear when they began to whine about MONEY AND WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO WITH MOM'S BILLS.

I didn't even have a minute to mourn when the poop started.

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All in all? I was never tight with a few members of my family and I know that if they had put all THEIR pettiness aside we would have been a strong group of people that could have taken on the world.


I don't mourn that-I feel badly at how my sibs looked in the face of adversity.

If I was stuck in a foxhole with the other three?

I'd stab myself in the cochlea with my bayonet.

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Ugh, I am getting an upset stomach and kinda sad....the open house is in 6 hours....

[Killearn Kitties]

Very very best of luck with everything, Richard.
There just isn't anything I can say that will help make it better.

[wombat2u2004]

Ahh mate, I'm so sorry to hear of that outcome.
Pick up your sticks and move on Richard.....put it all behind you, and the sibs to......they ain't worth knowing.
Just remember that you tried your best to get the family to agree on something that would be beneficial to you all in the long run, and not as they have done by selecting the short run to grab what they can now.

If it's any consolation mate.......it ain't that hard to get rid of people like that out of your life.....I got rid of my sibs years ago, and I'm a much better man because of it......family politics are hurtful and mean....you don't need that in your life old mate.....life is too short.

If there is anything I can do.....just PM me...k ???
Wom

[RICHARD]

There just isn't anything I can say that will help make it better.

There is a ticket to Scotland waiting for me at LAX?

If it's any consolation mate.......it ain't that hard to get rid of people like that out of your life.....I got rid of my sibs years ago, and I'm a much better man because of it......family politics are hurtful and mean....you don't need that in your life old mate.....life is too short.

If there is anything I can do.....just PM me...k ???
Wom

Yes, sir!

You cannot take the 'blood' out of your veins.

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My dearest sister said something to my brother-they are part of the opposing force-that made me laugh.

She confided to my brother that I would freak out and commit suicide.

My Dear Sis was so compassionate that she never came to the house to say goodbye to my mom for the two months she was at home.

As a matter of fact? I was with Ma up until the few hours before she died.
She was comatose and we had to wet her lips with a swab so her mouth would not dry out.

When she felt the pressure of the sponge she would try to suck the moisture out of it.

I felt an overwhelming sadness as I did so. I thought how she may have done the same thing for/to me as I was growing up. With a warm breast or a cool cup of water?

I spoke to her at that time and told her that I knew she was tired, she was in pain and it was O.K. for her to go.

Not that I am any giver of life or death, but I wanted the best for her.


No pain, no suffering and no sorrow.

That really released me from having to mourn for her.

I got to be there and I was able to talk to her for one last time.

I went to sleep to rest and a few hours later they woke me up to tell me that she had passed.

I felt not pain, but I small sense of relief and a smaller twinge of what would come to pass.

In the almost two years I have thought about her and her stubborness in not making a will or administrating to her estate?

But, we all want to live forever, so I see her point.


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I have wanted to run away from all this mess, but staying and putting the best foot forward is what I have to do.


I have 5 sibs an NOT ONE offered to be here today to see how this open house would go.

No one called, no one asked and one of my sibs is going to Disneyland today.

Really.

So,
My cochlea won't suffer any damage in the near future.

I'll need it to hear the complaints the will have down the road when they complain about the "way I screwed them out of the -------- they wanted from her house".

To be totally mean?

Eff them and the horse that carried their sorry arses into the arena.

I don't have to worry about riding in that rodeo.

I had to take the bull by the horns.

[Killearn Kitties]

There is a ticket to Scotland waiting for me at LAX?

The temperature is starting to drop at night. Better bring every warm item of clothing you possess, you Californian you.

[Catty1]

RICHARD - it seems to me you have your own house next to your mom's, right? Will you be ok in that regard?

You can choose your friends, but your relatives are wished on you. Hopefully this sale will take the nasty family members out of your life, and you will enjoy some freedom there.

HUGS.

[RICHARD]

RICHARD - it seems to me you have your own house next to your mom's, right? Will you be ok in that regard?

You can choose your friends, but your relatives are wished on you. Hopefully this sale will take the nasty family members out of your life, and you will enjoy some freedom there.

HUGS.

It's a guest house on the property.

The funny thing about it? On the zoning plan, it's listed as a 2+1. The GH is attached to a one car garage/ workshop. So, technically it does not exist.

I am hoping that will cause bidding war and jack the price up.

I can only hope.

I plan on using my money to find a place in the hills for a year and relax.

I want to write get away from family and everything. I want to sleep for a week, eat when I want and relax with a huge white cat.

I want to take all my children but it's not possible, unless I win the lotto.



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I am not looking at the settlement as a reward. I find it sad and plan to use it wisely.

I have asked the two sibs on my side to try and help out with the moving and throwing away all the shiat in the house but they just really do not have time for me.

The one sib going to Disneyland?

I have to laugh because he attends many events-next month he plans on going to a hockey game in Las Vegas, yet he's filed bankruptcy.

He also parked a car in the driveway for one month because it was not running and he was given a ticket on it.

I never said one word about the week that turned into a month, yet when I asked him to let me park my truck in his driveway for one week so I could get a dumpster in to clean out the back yard?

No, impossible.



I was talking to a friend and stated the fact that I wanted to to write a letter to everyone about how I felt.

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Before Ma died we were trying to get a lawyer in to get her to do a will,
It was going to cost us about 2k and I called my sis to tell her about it.

Had we all pitched in it would have been doable.......After I called her and told her the cost and asked what we should do, she stopped and took a few seconds then asked me what I wanted from her.

She thought I was going to say money, but I said, "How's about a little support?"

She flipped out and ended the convo a few seconds later.

LOL, I really want to be blunt and calculating about this.

But, it's better they deal with a conscience than my big mouth-that way they can get the truth faster that way.

[momoffuzzyfaces]

Are houses selling there in CA? They aren't here. They have resorted to auctioning off some of them to get rid of them. Maybe they won't sell right away and you will have time to get your bearings.

I know sort of what you are going through. When the house I was living in in 2005 got condemmed, I had to move and fast. I had no money and no where to go where I could take my cats. I wouldn't go without them. I was facing being homeless and was terrified. I was so lucky that my brother bought this house for me.

Maybe God is sifting the unneeded people out of your life and is going to move you some place much much better. I have to believe there is going to be something good come from this. I know it doesn't seem like it now. Hang on Pal! We are all here for you.

[wombat2u2004]

There is a ticket to Scotland waiting for me at LAX?

Mate, you'll have to take some dresses with you. I've heard that the men in Scotland wear dresses. Try and get one with checks on it.

And yeah....I agree with MOFF on this one.....someone up above is saying "Start afresh old mate"

[RICHARD]

Mate, you'll have to take some dresses with you. I've heard that the men in Scotland wear dresses. Try and get one with checks on it.

And yeah....I agree with MOFF on this one.....someone up above is saying "Start afresh old mate"

I have met KK.

She knows I am of the Clan Mc Crazy.

Checkered dresses. I do have legs for somthing like that.

I may get hit with a Get Lost, we are full! sign at the airport.

[wombat2u2004]

She knows I am of the Clan Mc Crazy.

Hey....are they related to the Clan McWombat ????

[RICHARD]

Hey....are they related to the Clan McWombat ????

Well, only one way to find out.


Shake the family tree and watch the nuts fall?

http://www.makeyourcoatofarms.com/app.asp

[Cinder & Smoke]

We have decided to sell the house.

The financial turnover was just too great for us to bear.

Sorry to hear things aren't working out.

So, where are You, Ed, and the Kittys all headed ?

If you need a couple nickles to rub together while you find a spot ...
drop me a line ... NO strings attached. Can't have any Homeless Kittys!

{{{Hugs}}}

[Pinot's Mom]

Richard, as others have said, please let me know if there's anything I can do. I don't know what, but I just feel I should be doing SOMETHING. Please keep us updated, we care a whole lot about you!