Lost a friend

[pomtzu]

If this woman is happy with the church and her new friends, then that's her choice. It's called freedom of religion and one of her rights. I'm sure she would leave if it was all that horrible. I'm pretty certain that no one is threatening her or trying to restrain her. Maybe these new friends are more accepting of her as she is, and her weight doesn't matter to them. Not everyone is obsessed with one's physical appearance, and it's what inside that counts. Give me an overweight and not exceptionally attractive friend any day, over the one who places importance of appearance at the top of the list - "attractive" on the outside and empty on the inside!

[sana]

pomtzu, please you aren't helping Marigold, she needs comfort, tell her that (your point) in a way she'll be happy with.

Marigold, your friend is happy the way she is, if you think the way she's gone is bad for her, try to bring her back, once, twice, thrice, but if she goes away, and doesn't listen, tell her to read this thread and if she is still on the path she was, then you'll have to let her go. You can't keep all your friends forever, I read a novel once, in it there was a girl who met her school fellows, the school fellows were from her old school which she had left. Her friend sweren't the same as they used to be, they didn't understand her the way they used to, so her grandmother told her, you can't keep all your friends, you gotta let some go. And this story was mostly true. So, you can't keep all your friends with you till your very last breath, you might have to let some go. So, if your friend doesn't listen to you, and stays on her way, you'll have to let her go.

[sana]

Hey, Marigold, just to make you feel better, I wanted to say,
I'd like to share an incident with you about me losing my firend, I lost a friend, a cousin, today, we had a loooong fight about pettalk, he said he didn't like it and I said it was a good place. So then we had a very long fight and the end was, he blocked me and I blocked him and this fight might continue for a very long time. We were calling each other names and stuff and so I hope you feel better. I just lost him about 5 minutes ago. Well, just for Huzaifa, you were a great firend and yeah I'd kinda miss ya after a MONTH!

[Asiel]

Maybe this woman finds more pleasure in her church and her real friends and is just using the church as an excuse to put distance on a friendship she considers superficial, empty and unreal. It isn't up to us to judge a church we know nothing about. I have friends from many dominations and they are not brainwashed. Could be that her church does teach that vanity is against their beliefs, most churches do teach that and maybe she realizes she prefers the company of real people. I for one would find it extremely boring and tedious to have to listen to a friend ranting and raving about her looks all the time. I don't associate with those types in the first place. To me they have nothing to offer a friendship except empty chatter.
As to her using the term that she isn't aging well, this does not mean she's talking about her looks or weight, my first impression would be that she might have discovered some health issues. Not everyone cares or wants to look like a centrefold in a magazine. Maybe she dropped out of WW because she found it boring to be around people who center their lives around their looks. There are more important things in life than looks and weight. As for her weight I think only her doctor would be in a position to judge if it's causing her any problems. Beauty is only skin deep and never lasts. A deep empathy and sincere feelings for a friend lasts a lifetime.

[pomtzu]

pomtzu, please you aren't helping Marigold, she needs comfort, tell her that (your point) in a way she'll be happy with.

Marigold, your friend is happy the way she is, if you think the way she's gone is bad for her, try to bring her back, once, twice, thrice, but if she goes away, and doesn't listen, tell her to read this thread and if she is still on the path she was, then you'll have to let her go. You can't keep all your friends forever, I read a novel once, in it there was a girl who met her school fellows, the school fellows were from her old school which she had left. Her friend sweren't the same as they used to be, they didn't understand her the way they used to, so her grandmother told her, you can't keep all your friends, you gotta let some go. And this story was mostly true. So, you can't keep all your friends with you till your very last breath, you might have to let some go. So, if your friend doesn't listen to you, and stays on her way, you'll have to let her go.

There is more to my previous post than meets the eye, something you know nothing about and don't need to. Marigold would never be happy with anything I have to say, but she has me on ignore and won't see it anyway.

Your comment about the novel was very good tho, and brings up a good point.

Now go do your homework, and stop spending so much time here on PT. You should learning, and interacting with your peers, and not getting involved with a bunch of adults here all the time.

[sana]

Hey! pomtzu, don't talk to me about home work on my weekends and holidays! I really don't like being reminded about it. I'll do it when I feel like it. I'd like to spend sometime on PT too.

[pomtzu]

Hey! pomtzu, don't talk to me about home work on my weekends and holidays! I really don't like being reminded about it. I'll do it when I feel like it. I'd like to spend sometime on PT too.

Well PT won't get you good grades in school, but I'm not up to "debating" this with a 13 yr old. I already do enough "debating" with a certain 14 yr old. Kinda like talking to a wall.........
Have a nice weekend.

[Queen of Poop]

Marigold, I am sorry you've lost a friend.

[Whisk_Luva]

Monica, I am sorry to hear about your friend.. I don't know what to suggest, but I hope things improve soon.

There is more to my previous post than meets the eye, something you know nothing about and don't need to. Marigold would never be happy with anything I have to say, but she has me on ignore and won't see it anyway.

Now go do your homework, and stop spending so much time here on PT. You should learning, and interacting with your peers, and not getting involved with a bunch of adults here all the time.

Well PT won't get you good grades in school, but I'm not up to "debating" this with a 13 yr old. I already do enough "debating" with a certain 14 yr old. Kinda like talking to a wall.........

I thought you said a while back you weren't going to be posting on any of Monica's threads anymore?

I remember what it was like to be on PT at 13. So what if Sana wants to come on here and talk to people on the board? A lot of members first came to pet talk as teenagers, I thought we were meant to welcome everyone. You don't turn around to other older members and tell them to stop posting because they are meant to be at work do you? Just because she is 13 doesn't mean she has no right to be here- in fact, I think she is pretty mature for 13 seeming she keeps trying to stop all these arguements.

I am not trying to argue with you Pomtzu. I don't want to argue with anyone, but it is difficult not to post when I see you and a few others ganging up on certain members.

Hey! pomtzu, don't talk to me about home work on my weekends and holidays! I really don't like being reminded about it. I'll do it when I feel like it. I'd like to spend sometime on PT too.

Don't worry Sana, you have every right to be here

[smokey the elder]

Well PT won't get you good grades in school, but I'm not up to "debating" this with a 13 yr old. I already do enough "debating" with a certain 14 yr old. Kinda like talking to a wall.........
Have a nice weekend.

That was out of line, IMO.

[pomtzu]

If some folks will take the time to notice, I was half way joking with Sana and never said she didn't have a right to be here. Maybe some people need to lighten up a little, and learn to read between the lines.

As far as posting in Marigold's threads - as some others like to fall back on here when they go contrary to what they said previously - "I changed my mind". If it works for them, then it works for me!!!

[cassiesmom]

I agree with part of Pomtzu's post where she says this is Marigold2's friend's choice. There is a saying, people come into your life for a reason, or a season, or a lifetime. Marigold2, maybe your season with this person has to come to an end. You are much too special to spend your energy on this person

Here is my own recent example. My friend B. (see the "Dear You" thread) is someone I thought was a lifetime friend. Things have changed over the past several months. Our birthdays are one week apart. We have always exchanged gifts. I mailed her a card and got her a gift. I did not get a card (or an e-card or even a call), much less a gift in return. Her life priorities have shifted, but mine have not. This friend who I considered a lifetime friend, who I expected to be a part of my life for many years to come -- I now consider a season friend and our season has concluded. We now have a very superficial relationship, with contact via e-mail 1-2 times a week at most. It makes me very sad, but that was her choice and there is nothing I can do. ((((((HUGS FOR Marigold2))))))

[moosmom]

Marigold2,

It's very difficult to lose such a great friend to something so mind blowing. I'm sorry you've lost such a friend. The only way she's ever going to learn, is by hitting rock bottom. She's not there yet. And don't let her bring you down with her, okay? You're too nice a person.

I have one question...WHY do some people here always have to make this into a debate or argument?????? *Sigh*