This is my quandry.

[RICHARD]

The night my mom died my sister got in her purse and threw out her lipstick I was devastated...she said well she isn't going to use it anymore. I still think my sister is a cold biatch.

I still have a bottle of shampoo that my mom had while she was in the Extended Care Hospital.
IT's got her name on it and I refuse to toss it out.

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I have a sister that is an LVN.

Let me preface this by saying that I probably could not have changed my mom's dressings, but I did change them for my dad before he lost his toes to diabetes, So I do understand her not wanting to deal with my mom's condition-it's very painful to see someone you love suffer.


While my dad was dying and ma came home to pass? She never once came to see them or to say goodbye.

I resent the EFF out that.

To this day she will swear that my mother told her never to show up at the house again.

I know that is the biggest lie on the planet.

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Here is one last tidbit in this story.

My mom didn't want to be cremated, she wanted to be buried next to dad.

My sis' boss gave my sister a check to cover the expenses for the funeral.

My brother went into a tizzy and went off on my sister-he took care of all the 'arrangements' - to the point where I could not attend the funeral becasue i was involved in a work dispute/grievance that I could not miss out on.

I asked him to resched the arrangements and he said, "no".

The last time I went to see her plot, she still has no placard on the grave.

I went to see about paying for one and could not because his name is on the
papers when she was buried.

I let it go until now and that will be one of my complaints in addition to the money he took....That was the least she deserved and almost two years later, she has no placard on the grave marker.

whew......

[Catty1]

RICHARD - prayers here that you get answers and a plan of action tomorrow. This is just horrid. I hope your lawyer talks to the probate guy and everything gets sorted out.

Again - notifying you only by email does sound very fishy.

{{{{hugs}}}}

[RICHARD]

RICHARD - prayers here that you get answers and a plan of action tomorrow. This is just horrid. I hope your lawyer talks to the probate guy and everything gets sorted out.

Again - notifying you only by email does sound very fishy.

{{{{hugs}}}}

I have to say one thing about all you all.

I was sitting here freaking out the better part of a week and finally have some room to breathe thanks to you all.

I am literally feeling a whole poop load better.

There are options and I plan on taking my best shot at getting this sorted out.

Thanks again, I cannot tell you all how much I appreciate it and how much better I feel.

To be continued?

[caseysmom]

This too will pass Richard just remember. Your mom had you and you were there for her...the hell with everyone out for almighty buck you were there for you mom and she knows that.

[Freedom]

Richard, gosh I just can't imagine, and don't know what to say.

Is it time to get some help in trapping and rehoming your lil frens?

[rosethecopycat]

Richard-

Things will work out. Think of it as a door opening, not closing.
It may not work out the way you've imagined it, it might just be better.

Prayers for you, my friend.