This is my quandry.

**lizbud** · 09-13-2010, 05:36 PM

Oh man, Richard.

Did your lawyer represent you at all during the court
case? It probably hurt your chances a lot by not appearing (I'm not a lawyer
so I really don't know for sure) but still. I would have a face to face with the
attorney and ask for his help (big time) with this. Prayers that you & Ed can
get this worked out so you don't lose your home.

**Freedom** · 09-13-2010, 05:42 PM

1. Call your lawyer - the one who sent the email - and ask what the H*LL is happening?

2. DO WHAT KAREN SUGGESTED

**RICHARD** · 09-13-2010, 05:49 PM

I have to see the lawyer tomorrow.

So I will get some ??? answered.

He was just told there was a hearing on the 20th - but he was never given anything to at least let him know what happened afterwards, he was as much in the dark as we are.

I think -and will find out tomorrow- why he never got any paperword re the sale.

That leads me to believe that something is desperately wrong here.

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The best part about this is the weight you can lose while worrying. I kid, I kid.

thanks for the advice and thoughts.

**Laura's Babies** · 09-13-2010, 06:29 PM

Could you come up with the $$$ to buy out your part for your house? I would see where I could make a offer to do that and do it if it is allowed...

**Bonny** · 09-13-2010, 06:42 PM

We applied for a federal ID number besides & like Caseysmom said I had to account for every penny with a special estate checking account that was set up at a local bank.

**caseysmom** · 09-13-2010, 06:46 PM

I just corrected my post I said I was the executioner..lol I meant executor...

**caseysmom** · 09-13-2010, 06:48 PM

I went through the same thing when my mom died Richard I wanted to keep the house and everybody else wanted the money.

**wombat2u2004** · 09-13-2010, 07:03 PM

Sorry to hear about the trouble you are having mate.
Hang in there, and keep a paper trail. Keep all emails and write down dates etc etc....it's good ammo in court.
Wishing you the best of luck with this one, hope it comes out your way.

**RICHARD** · 09-13-2010, 06:58 PM

Originally Posted by caseysmom

I just corrected my post I said I was the executioner..lol I meant executor...

I saw that and kinda glossed over it.

Actually?

I was keeping it in mind.

**Husky_mom** · 09-13-2010, 07:17 PM

I know it´s not the same.. but a lil story..

my grandparents (mother side) also left no will... there are 5 siblings... 4 live in the same state.. one lives in another one.. 3 3 brothers 2 sis..

anyway.. my mom, her sis and one brother were taking care of the house n stuff.. paying any electric, water that was still being charged.. cleaning up a bit because they intended to rent it out..

we (hubs and I even were one of the probables).. anyhow... the other 2 brothers only wanted the cash.. the one from out of state dropped by.. and said the house was his as his father had told him...

my mom backed out.. if they wanted to fight about it.. fine.. sell it.. fine.. whatever...

thing is the house was "supposed" to be remodeled to rent out as offices.. well.. until now the house is rotting.. people have broken in.. and LIVED there for a while until kicked out by police.. needless to say.. no one got nothing out of it.. I mean thankfully noone needed the cash that much.. but in the end they lost it all... if they now want anything.. I think a demolition is in need..

I´m sorry this is happening to you... really am..

**CatsMeow** · 09-17-2010, 06:06 PM

Oh Richard! My thoughts and prayers fall onto you.

**momoffuzzyfaces** · 09-17-2010, 06:30 PM

Aw, Richard lots and lots of prayers are on the way from me. This makes me sort of glad my stepmom took everything dad had before he died.

**RICHARD** · 09-18-2010, 08:42 AM

We have decided to sell the house.

The financial turnover was just too great for us to bear.

IT would not have been fair to me or my sibs to make an offer, had we had the familial numbers-we were looking at a three to three tie with the sibs- or had my brother and sister been more patient with what happened we would have been in better shape...

My proposal was to sell the rental, pay mom's bills split a little money and put the house in everyone's name. Had that happened anyone could have borrowed against their piece of the house if they needed cash.

With a signed note of course.

But, my sister and brother had to start freaking out after my mom died. I had not even the time to get my head out of my rear when they began to whine about MONEY AND WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO WITH MOM'S BILLS.

I didn't even have a minute to mourn when the poop started.

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All in all? I was never tight with a few members of my family and I know that if they had put all THEIR pettiness aside we would have been a strong group of people that could have taken on the world.

I don't mourn that-I feel badly at how my sibs looked in the face of adversity.

If I was stuck in a foxhole with the other three?

I'd stab myself in the cochlea with my bayonet.

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Ugh, I am getting an upset stomach and kinda sad....the open house is in 6 hours....

**Killearn Kitties** · 09-18-2010, 09:09 AM

Very very best of luck with everything, Richard.
There just isn't anything I can say that will help make it better.

**wombat2u2004** · 09-18-2010, 09:16 AM

Ahh mate, I'm so sorry to hear of that outcome.
Pick up your sticks and move on Richard.....put it all behind you, and the sibs to......they ain't worth knowing.
Just remember that you tried your best to get the family to agree on something that would be beneficial to you all in the long run, and not as they have done by selecting the short run to grab what they can now.

If it's any consolation mate.......it ain't that hard to get rid of people like that out of your life.....I got rid of my sibs years ago, and I'm a much better man because of it......family politics are hurtful and mean....you don't need that in your life old mate.....life is too short.

If there is anything I can do.....just PM me...k ???

Wom