Barefoot child at Wal-Mart

[Lady's Human]

I can't believe any parent would let a child go barefoot in stores and parking lots. Some people don't deserve kids period.

I wouldn't like to see a little kid going barefoot in a store or in a
store parking lot. Not a good idea at all, for all the reasons you've
already mentioned. As a parent it's our job to make decisions for our
kids. Barefoot at home is one thing, outside the safety of home, is
quite another.

I swear I don't know where parent's minds are these days. Unbelievable!!!

No one claimed any such thing. I believe you're just being argumentative.
It isn't allways easy to be the parent & make informed decisions for your
children, but hey, it is our JOB & our responsibilty.

And yes - I successfully raised 2 children to adulthood, in spite of all the household perils, and those away from the home too. Just part of responsible parenting, I guess.

Don't be sorry, you were right all along. This isn't just an appearances
type of thing, it is a safety issue. If other parents don't see that, then so
be it.

I do not think there is any excuse for this type of neglect. If there was a reason she could not wear shoes they should have made her ride in a cart. I would never ever have let either of my kids go barefoot in public, even at the beach we made them wear sandals until we got our towels and blankets set up.

Parents are just letting their kids run things these days. Bad parenting...

Nah, don't see how this thread got confrontational at all.......

[Lady's Human]

By the way, Liz, even out here in the sticks we gots wal marts and them big grocery stores an Everything!

We even gots a bunch a car dealerships an a Chuck-e-Cheeze!

[pomtzu]

So everyone else's kids were immaculately clothed and groomed at all times outside the home ?

Never one thing amiss?

Give yourselves a group medal and a pat one the back, because you're the only parents in history to accomplish that.

No. just amazed that people can be so judgmental about the parenting abilities of generations based on a child sighted in passing barefoot in a checkout line.

Big deal, the kid was barefoot.

So neglect is now letting a kid go barefoot?

Priceless.

What's sending them to bed without dinner? Reckless endangerment?

Congratulations to you all.

I wish I could be as perfect a parent as you are, alas, I have fallen short.

Maybe a few of you ladies could get together and write a book on how to be a perfect parent?

I'm deeply disturbed by the fact that my wife and I have no earthly idea how to raise children. We need your wisdom and guidance before our children get injured by our blatant incompetence.

Yep. Bubblewrap them and then be surprised when the world reaches out and slaps them with reality.

Sorry, I'm a firm believer in letting them learn from their actions.

And I will continue parenting as I see fit. The problem with that is one of these days, some holier than thou busybody can call CPS because I'm doing XYZ that they don't agree with, and open a case.

Reading this thread I see nothing but an attitude of I don't know what the hell I'm doing as a parent.

Sorry, I call 'em like I see 'em.

Don't like it? Oh well.

The village can get the hell out of my life, thank you.

The church is supported by tax dollars? Damn, didn't know that.

When the village becomes a bunch of nattering busybodies, they can , quite frankly, kiss my posterior and exit, stage left.

I'm out.

Biddies and nannies, have at it, just leave parents alone unless there's a serious problem.

I don't take parenting advice from relatives, I'm damned sure not going to take it from a bunch of biddies on a forum.

By the way, in all the serious cases of child neglect you read about in the news, and wonder where CPS/DSS et al were?

Chasing down complaints from biddies who saw a child barefoot at wal-mart. They have to investigate all reports.

The trouble with being a parent is that everyone in society knows how to do it better than you do, regardless of their experience.

Again, your personal experience applies not a whit to my children. They aren't your children, they don't live in your town, and don't go to your schools.

Nah, don't see how this thread got confrontational at all.......

Gee - I don't either.

[Lady's Human]

Point being, pom, that those were posted AFTER parents who let their children go barefoot were accused of neglect and other things by more than one poster.

Had nothing to do with the OP, it had to do with the exceedingly over the top responses by the saints and paragons of parenting in the commentariat.

[lizbud]

Quoted by pomtzu


Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
So everyone else's kids were immaculately clothed and groomed at all times outside the home ?

Never one thing amiss?

Give yourselves a group medal and a pat one the back, because you're the only parents in history to accomplish that.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
No. just amazed that people can be so judgmental about the parenting abilities of generations based on a child sighted in passing barefoot in a checkout line.

Big deal, the kid was barefoot.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
So neglect is now letting a kid go barefoot?

Priceless.

What's sending them to bed without dinner? Reckless endangerment?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
Congratulations to you all.

I wish I could be as perfect a parent as you are, alas, I have fallen short.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human


Maybe a few of you ladies could get together and write a book on how to be a perfect parent?

I'm deeply disturbed by the fact that my wife and I have no earthly idea how to raise children. We need your wisdom and guidance before our children get injured by our blatant incompetence.



Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
Yep. Bubblewrap them and then be surprised when the world reaches out and slaps them with reality.

Sorry, I'm a firm believer in letting them learn from their actions.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
And I will continue parenting as I see fit. The problem with that is one of these days, some holier than thou busybody can call CPS because I'm doing XYZ that they don't agree with, and open a case.

Reading this thread I see nothing but an attitude of I don't know what the hell I'm doing as a parent.

Sorry, I call 'em like I see 'em.

Don't like it? Oh well.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
The village can get the hell out of my life, thank you.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
The church is supported by tax dollars? Damn, didn't know that.

When the village becomes a bunch of nattering busybodies, they can , quite frankly, kiss my posterior and exit, stage left.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
I'm out.

Biddies and nannies, have at it, just leave parents alone unless there's a serious problem.

I don't take parenting advice from relatives, I'm damned sure not going to take it from a bunch of biddies on a forum.

By the way, in all the serious cases of child neglect you read about in the news, and wonder where CPS/DSS et al were?

Chasing down complaints from biddies who saw a child barefoot at wal-mart. They have to investigate all reports.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
The trouble with being a parent is that everyone in society knows how to do it better than you do, regardless of their experience.

Again, your personal experience applies not a whit to my children. They aren't your children, they don't live in your town, and don't go to your schools.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
Nah, don't see how this thread got confrontational at all.......


Gee - I don't either.
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Pom,
We might as well continue to be the grownups here and just let this be. LH,
as usual, wants to have the last word & I say let him.

He might just hold his breath till he turns blue or something. I can't have that on my concience.

[pomtzu]

Point being, pom, that those were posted AFTER parents who let their children go barefoot were accused of neglect and other things by more than one poster.

Had nothing to do with the OP, it had to do with the exceedingly over the top responses by the saints and paragons of parenting in the commentariat.

And point being LH, that no one accused YOU of being a bad parent, just as none of us said we were faultless parents. You had to make a comment about being immaculately clothed and groomed - no one said anything about that either - except for you.
The whole point was about safety of the children - referencing parents who make this a regular practice, and not just a fluke that might happen once in a blue moon. The thread snowballed out of control, and the whole point was lost. Frankly, I'm glad that so many different points and opinions were stated. If it was seen by, and changes even one parent's mind that makes this a practice on a regular basis, maybe after reading this, they will see things that they never considered before, and have second thoughts about having protection on the kid's feet when in less than favorable conditions.
Now it's time for a truce............

[Lady's Human]

And the reason it blew up is very simple.

The safety hazard isn't that great. (Boys and girls, IV drug users don't tend to dispose of their needles AT ALL, never mind in the parking lot, if they ditch it they're trying to hide it so the cops can't find it. A paved parking lot hardly fits that description)

People were judging based on one observer's 30 second look at the child.

I let my children go barefoot, sometimes, heaven forbid, in public areas.

People, including you, have determined that it's bad parenting to let the little darlings go barefoot like that.

Hence you are judging, by extension, my parenting, and frankly, you have no basis to do so to me or the person referenced in the original post.

If you're without sin, go ahead, cast that mutha.

Truce? No, sorry, isn't happening. Insulting someone's parenting is about as personal as you can get.

[caseysmom]

When I was about 10 our family dog went missing. Me and my sister were beside ourselves and crying. My Dad said okay first thing in the morning we will run to the shelter.

I jumped in Dad's truck with no shoes and they wouldn't let me in, I could hear Ranger barking from outside though and knew he was inside. Was my dad an irresponsible bad parent...now way he was the best.

I am not taking sides or trying to make the op feel bad just saying I get LH's point completely. Don't swet the small stuff cuz then the big stuff gets overlooked.

[wombat2u2004]

Ok people. Time to kiss and make friends.
I've even made a Friendship Cake for you all.
Enjoy

[happylabs]

It seems as though we may have hit a nerve here. You have to wonder why someone would be offended by a post like this.

[pomtzu]

And the reason it blew up is very simple.

The safety hazard isn't that great. (Boys and girls, IV drug users don't tend to dispose of their needles AT ALL, never mind in the parking lot, if they ditch it they're trying to hide it so the cops can't find it. A paved parking lot hardly fits that description)

People were judging based on one observer's 30 second look at the child.

I let my children go barefoot, sometimes, heaven forbid, in public areas.

People, including you, have determined that it's bad parenting to let the little darlings go barefoot like that.

Hence you are judging, by extension, my parenting, and frankly, you have no basis to do so to me or the person referenced in the original post.

If you're without sin, go ahead, cast that mutha.

Truce? No, sorry, isn't happening. Insulting someone's parenting is about as personal as you can get.

Well - you still don't see my point at all, and obviously you don't care to. Again - it made reference to folks that make this a common practice, and not the once in a blue moon incidents. The original post only opened up the subject to discussion and people's views on the subject in general. If you take those blinders off, you might see this too, thru your hard-headed, know it all, argumentative, I'm right/you're wrong, head. Sorry I even suggested a truce, since I'm obviously the big bad enemy, and I know nothing.


ETA: I offer the proverbial olive branch, and I'm told by implication, to stick it where the sun don't shine. Nice!

[Bonny]

It seems as though we may have hit a nerve here. You have to wonder why someone would be offended by a post like this.

I am thinking the same thing.

[Cataholic]

It seems as though we may have hit a nerve here. You have to wonder why someone would be offended by a post like this.

Scratches head....whether you agree with LH opinion or not, it seems relatively clear why he is, in fact, offended by the comments in the OP and following posts.
Your comment, IMO, simply seeks to stir the embers.

[Catlady711]

whether you agree with LH opinion or not, it seems relatively clear why he is, in fact, offended by the comments in the OP and following posts.

Yup, you said it better than I could.

[lizbud]

Ok people. Time to kiss and make friends.
I've even made a Friendship Cake for you all.
Enjoy

OMG, A fruitcake on steriods.