Barefoot child at Wal-Mart

[Lady's Human]

Well, to keep shoes on my daughter is a constant fight, possibly the parents got tired of it and saw that particular day as a battle that wasn't worth fighting in that regard.

[pomtzu]

Up until a few years ago, I went barefoot as much as possible, but only around the house and yard. Of course, I also ended up stepping on a lot of stinging insects too! I can't imagine anyone going without shoes in stores and parking lots. Most every store around here - and all restaurants - have a notice on the door - "shoes and shirts required". Thank goodness - some male species that I've seen without a shirt - well - it just isn't a pretty sight!

[Asiel]

I can't believe any parent would let a child go barefoot in stores and parking lots. Some people don't deserve kids period.

POM---put your shoes on

[Lady's Human]

I can't believe any parent would let a child go barefoot in stores and parking lots. Some people don't deserve kids period.

I wouldn't like to see a little kid going barefoot in a store or in a
store parking lot. Not a good idea at all, for all the reasons you've
already mentioned. As a parent it's our job to make decisions for our
kids. Barefoot at home is one thing, outside the safety of home, is
quite another.

I swear I don't know where parent's minds are these days. Unbelievable!!!

No one claimed any such thing. I believe you're just being argumentative.
It isn't allways easy to be the parent & make informed decisions for your
children, but hey, it is our JOB & our responsibilty.

And yes - I successfully raised 2 children to adulthood, in spite of all the household perils, and those away from the home too. Just part of responsible parenting, I guess.

Don't be sorry, you were right all along. This isn't just an appearances
type of thing, it is a safety issue. If other parents don't see that, then so
be it.

I do not think there is any excuse for this type of neglect. If there was a reason she could not wear shoes they should have made her ride in a cart. I would never ever have let either of my kids go barefoot in public, even at the beach we made them wear sandals until we got our towels and blankets set up.

Parents are just letting their kids run things these days. Bad parenting...

Nah, don't see how this thread got confrontational at all.......

[Lady's Human]

By the way, Liz, even out here in the sticks we gots wal marts and them big grocery stores an Everything!

We even gots a bunch a car dealerships an a Chuck-e-Cheeze!

[pomtzu]

So everyone else's kids were immaculately clothed and groomed at all times outside the home ?

Never one thing amiss?

Give yourselves a group medal and a pat one the back, because you're the only parents in history to accomplish that.

No. just amazed that people can be so judgmental about the parenting abilities of generations based on a child sighted in passing barefoot in a checkout line.

Big deal, the kid was barefoot.

So neglect is now letting a kid go barefoot?

Priceless.

What's sending them to bed without dinner? Reckless endangerment?

Congratulations to you all.

I wish I could be as perfect a parent as you are, alas, I have fallen short.

Maybe a few of you ladies could get together and write a book on how to be a perfect parent?

I'm deeply disturbed by the fact that my wife and I have no earthly idea how to raise children. We need your wisdom and guidance before our children get injured by our blatant incompetence.

Yep. Bubblewrap them and then be surprised when the world reaches out and slaps them with reality.

Sorry, I'm a firm believer in letting them learn from their actions.

And I will continue parenting as I see fit. The problem with that is one of these days, some holier than thou busybody can call CPS because I'm doing XYZ that they don't agree with, and open a case.

Reading this thread I see nothing but an attitude of I don't know what the hell I'm doing as a parent.

Sorry, I call 'em like I see 'em.

Don't like it? Oh well.

The village can get the hell out of my life, thank you.

The church is supported by tax dollars? Damn, didn't know that.

When the village becomes a bunch of nattering busybodies, they can , quite frankly, kiss my posterior and exit, stage left.

I'm out.

Biddies and nannies, have at it, just leave parents alone unless there's a serious problem.

I don't take parenting advice from relatives, I'm damned sure not going to take it from a bunch of biddies on a forum.

By the way, in all the serious cases of child neglect you read about in the news, and wonder where CPS/DSS et al were?

Chasing down complaints from biddies who saw a child barefoot at wal-mart. They have to investigate all reports.

The trouble with being a parent is that everyone in society knows how to do it better than you do, regardless of their experience.

Again, your personal experience applies not a whit to my children. They aren't your children, they don't live in your town, and don't go to your schools.

Nah, don't see how this thread got confrontational at all.......

Gee - I don't either.

[Lady's Human]

Point being, pom, that those were posted AFTER parents who let their children go barefoot were accused of neglect and other things by more than one poster.

Had nothing to do with the OP, it had to do with the exceedingly over the top responses by the saints and paragons of parenting in the commentariat.

[lizbud]

Quoted by pomtzu


Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
So everyone else's kids were immaculately clothed and groomed at all times outside the home ?

Never one thing amiss?

Give yourselves a group medal and a pat one the back, because you're the only parents in history to accomplish that.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
No. just amazed that people can be so judgmental about the parenting abilities of generations based on a child sighted in passing barefoot in a checkout line.

Big deal, the kid was barefoot.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
So neglect is now letting a kid go barefoot?

Priceless.

What's sending them to bed without dinner? Reckless endangerment?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
Congratulations to you all.

I wish I could be as perfect a parent as you are, alas, I have fallen short.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human


Maybe a few of you ladies could get together and write a book on how to be a perfect parent?

I'm deeply disturbed by the fact that my wife and I have no earthly idea how to raise children. We need your wisdom and guidance before our children get injured by our blatant incompetence.



Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
Yep. Bubblewrap them and then be surprised when the world reaches out and slaps them with reality.

Sorry, I'm a firm believer in letting them learn from their actions.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
And I will continue parenting as I see fit. The problem with that is one of these days, some holier than thou busybody can call CPS because I'm doing XYZ that they don't agree with, and open a case.

Reading this thread I see nothing but an attitude of I don't know what the hell I'm doing as a parent.

Sorry, I call 'em like I see 'em.

Don't like it? Oh well.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
The village can get the hell out of my life, thank you.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
The church is supported by tax dollars? Damn, didn't know that.

When the village becomes a bunch of nattering busybodies, they can , quite frankly, kiss my posterior and exit, stage left.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
I'm out.

Biddies and nannies, have at it, just leave parents alone unless there's a serious problem.

I don't take parenting advice from relatives, I'm damned sure not going to take it from a bunch of biddies on a forum.

By the way, in all the serious cases of child neglect you read about in the news, and wonder where CPS/DSS et al were?

Chasing down complaints from biddies who saw a child barefoot at wal-mart. They have to investigate all reports.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
The trouble with being a parent is that everyone in society knows how to do it better than you do, regardless of their experience.

Again, your personal experience applies not a whit to my children. They aren't your children, they don't live in your town, and don't go to your schools.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
Nah, don't see how this thread got confrontational at all.......


Gee - I don't either.
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Pom,
We might as well continue to be the grownups here and just let this be. LH,
as usual, wants to have the last word & I say let him.

He might just hold his breath till he turns blue or something. I can't have that on my concience.

[pomtzu]

Point being, pom, that those were posted AFTER parents who let their children go barefoot were accused of neglect and other things by more than one poster.

Had nothing to do with the OP, it had to do with the exceedingly over the top responses by the saints and paragons of parenting in the commentariat.

And point being LH, that no one accused YOU of being a bad parent, just as none of us said we were faultless parents. You had to make a comment about being immaculately clothed and groomed - no one said anything about that either - except for you.
The whole point was about safety of the children - referencing parents who make this a regular practice, and not just a fluke that might happen once in a blue moon. The thread snowballed out of control, and the whole point was lost. Frankly, I'm glad that so many different points and opinions were stated. If it was seen by, and changes even one parent's mind that makes this a practice on a regular basis, maybe after reading this, they will see things that they never considered before, and have second thoughts about having protection on the kid's feet when in less than favorable conditions.
Now it's time for a truce............

[cassiesmom]

Well, to keep shoes on my daughter is a constant fight, possibly the parents got tired of it and saw that particular day as a battle that wasn't worth fighting in that regard.

But, LH, in the grocery store, though? I guess I'm just a worry-wart. I'd be very concerned that the child could step on something nasty. The other thing is that this particular Wal-Mart's parking lot isn't lit too terribly well at night and there's almost always trash scattered around. Papers, empty cardboard boxes from pop and beer, cans and bottles and plastic bags even soiled diapers. One time I opened the car door and almost stepped on a used condom - yuck! I'd be afraid of the boy stepping on a nail or glass or who knows what else. If he wants to go round without shoes at home, that's okay with me, but for safety's sake not at the store. Especially that store- open and busy 24 hours a day. I'm not sure if it's up to wal-Mart or the shopping center management to keep the parking lot picked up but it's an ongoing task.

[Lady's Human]

Impossible to judge who what or why based on one incident of a child going barefoot.

IT happens.

You can what if all day long about thousands of things in life, with each what if ending horribly. For whatever reason, the child was barefoot. It happens. I know it happens with my kids on occasion. Doesn't mean I'm careless, it means someone was having a bad day.

[lizbud]

I wouldn't like to see a little kid going barefoot in a store or in a
store parking lot. Not a good idea at all, for all the reasons you've
already mentioned. As a parent it's our job to make decisions for our
kids. Barefoot at home is one thing, outside the safety of home, is
quite another.

[moosmom]

I swear I don't know where parent's minds are these days. Unbelievable!!!

[Lady's Human]

So everyone else's kids were immaculately clothed and groomed at all times outside the home ?

Never one thing amiss?

Give yourselves a group medal and a pat one the back, because you're the only parents in history to accomplish that.

[lizbud]

So everyone else's kids were immaculately clothed and groomed at all times outside the home ?

Never one thing amiss?

Give yourselves a group medal and a pat one the back, because you're the only parents in history to accomplish that.

No one claimed any such thing. I believe you're just being argumentative.
It isn't allways easy to be the parent & make informed decisions for your
children, but hey, it is our JOB & our responsibilty.