Mini Rant

[Laura's Babies]

I know exactly what you mean NicoleLJ! Whenever we have someone come on the boat to work on something, I am not told until just minutes before they arrive (usually) and if they are there at mealtime, someone will always invite them to eat. Usually, there is enough to handle ONE extra but then you get the times when there are 3 or 4 and that is where I have problems. There is NOT enough time to thaw out more pork chops or pieces like that. I have told them when they would tell me we had someone coming on that I only had "X" number of pieces of meat and unless they wanted to let the company have theirs, NOT to invite them to eat until after the crew had ate... (I have learned to keep premade patties, chicken or beef in the freezer now and instant gravy for just such times)

The time I did get pleanty of notice and cooked accordingly... they either didn't show up or left before mealtime..

(Men NEVER get it! NEVER! They think we are miracle workers and can do ANYTHING)

[pomtzu]

I think that it's VERY inconsiderate!. Maybe you could embarrass him by serving very small portions because you have to now feed an extra mouth that you hadn't planned on. Why should you have to go out of your way to try to accommodate an unexpected guest? Put your foot down, and demand at least a one day notice. That doesn't make you a b*tch, but makes you look like a more gracious hostess, with everything well put together!

Fortunately, my ex never pulled anything like that on me. I trained him well!!

[Grace]

I, also, don't think you are being difficult, particularly if this an on-going situation.

It sort of goes along with my pet peeve - people who drop in on you unannounced. And then stay even if it's obvious you are otherwise occupied. They send me the message that they think their time is more valuable than mine.

[pomtzu]

It sort of goes along with my pet peeve - people who drop in on you unannounced. And then stay even if it's obvious you are otherwise occupied.

Oh yeah - a really big gripe of mine too. Friends always tell me - just drop in anytime! I don't, because I know how I feel about it being done to me. I will call well beforehand, and more times than not, they will say they have guests, or are getting ready to go somewhere, etc, etc. So sure - I'll just drop in anytime. NOT!!

[NicoleLJ]

It wasn't really an issue till we moved. Only happened a couple of times before that. Since we moved our large back deck has become the hang out spot for all of our friends and all of my fiances moms friends. And since our place is upstairs we are always the host. Which I have no problem with at all. I have gotten used to always making sure their is ice tea in the fridge and coffee ready to be made. When it was habit before to make it when wanted. I am also stocking my freezer with baking so that there is always something to serve. I am glad that people love to come over. It is just for dinners when single portions are being made I need notice for my sanity. lol

[Taz_Zoee]

So he just calls and says "Hey, I'm bringing Joe home for dinner." Or does he ask you if it's okay? Bruce would ask first. Of course, Bruce is the one that cooks the main part of the dinner so he would know anyway.

It's not the amount of time it takes to cook the meal that is the problem. It's having enough food to make at all. I totally understand why you would be frustrated.

Maybe keep some frozen dinners (like Hungry Man or whatever) in the freezer and then that becomes your husbands dinner for bringing home guests at the last minute.

[Randi]

I would get really annoyed if someone did that to me. If you're standing there with two steaks and you have just enough potatoes - what are you supposed to do! Cut the steaks up in smaller pieces?? Geesh!

John luckily never invited anyone for dinner, unless he had told me long before, and we usually went shopping together on our way home, anyway. Or I had already taken something out of the freezer in the morning.

If you are having something like steaks and your husband invites someone, tell him to at least get another steak on his way home!

[lizbud]

That is a annoying problem. Next time he calls with a unexpected
guest coming, I'd tell him to be prepared to share HIS meal with them.