My neighbor... the sexual offender

[shais_mom]

if you do have a pt gathering, invite gini (and she can invite all the firemen she knows!!!) and phred (who can do the same)

hehehehehe

take care
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i'm there!

[moosmom]

My friend rented her downstairs apartment to a woman and her daughter. My friend noticed that the mailman accidentally put mail for the tenant in her mailbox. Turned out the return address was from a maximum security prison. It seems the prisoner it was from, is the baby daddy. After doing a little background check, we find out he's a registered sex offender. She asked my friend if he could move in with them when he gets out of prison. I told her that unless her Mom wants her address listed as the home of a sex offender, the answer would be "oh hell no!!" She told her that her lease specifically states only she and her daughter are allowed to live in the apartment. There's been so much chaos going on, loud company, cigarette butts strewn all over the property, late rent, that her mother has decided not to renew her lease. Very wise on her part.

[pomtzu]

Leave things alone and don't stir up a hornet's nest. As long as he is living by the rules of his parole and "keeping his nose clean", then let him be. Just maybe he is trying to turn his life around, and as long as he isn't bothering or threatening anyone, what would be the point of making his life more difficult than it already is? Printing out his record and flaunting it in his face will serve no purpose at all, other than to inflame the situation. Let sleeping dogs lie. Only if he does step out of line, should you feel the need to take defensive action. JMHO of course.......

[Catty1]

I am SURE the neighbourhood already knows. He has kept his distance so far - and you are safe to keep yours.

Take all the normal precautions you would regarding locks, alarms, etc.

Although his crime was unspeakable, he is paying for it with a GPS bracelet - a life of distance from people. Imagine living with Big Brother on your ankle all your life.

Not making excuses for the guy - just that he has a life no on would envy. I hope he "recovers" - that is a horrible thing to live down and to get rid of.

[shais_mom]

Leave things alone and don't stir up a hornet's nest. As long as he is living by the rules of his parole and "keeping his nose clean", then let him be. Just maybe he is trying to turn his life around, and as long as he isn't bothering or threatening anyone, what would be the point of making his life more difficult than it already is? Printing out his record and flaunting it in his face will serve no purpose at all, other than to inflame the situation. Let sleeping dogs lie. Only if he does step out of line, should you feel the need to take defensive action. JMHO of course.......

I wish PET TALK had a LIKE or DISLIKE on here like Facebook does.
b/c I would LIKE this! I agree that printing out the info and flaunting it in his face is unnessary. Why try to start trouble where there isn't any? And then Kimmie will be branded as a $hit-stirrer, and she hasn't even hardly moved in yet!

[Karen]

I wish PET TALK had a LIKE or DISLIKE on here like Facebook does.
b/c I would LIKE this!

Oh, but Staci, we aren't as interested in collecting all your personal data and preferences for our own financial gain like Facebook is! I rarely "like" anything on Facebook, as the less anonymous entities know about me, the better!

[shais_mom]

Oh, but Staci, we aren't as interested in collecting all your personal data and preferences for our own financial gain like Facebook is! I rarely "like" anything on Facebook, as the less anonymous entities know about me, the better!

ok.
I belong to another forum that is vbulletin based and while they don't have like or dislike they have an option to "THANK" the previous poster for their post. I kind of like that too.

[pomtzu]

ok.
I belong to another forum that is vbulletin based and while they don't have like or dislike they have an option to "THANK" the previous poster for their post. I kind of like that too.

That's a good idea......

[caseysmom]

Leave things alone and don't stir up a hornet's nest. As long as he is living by the rules of his parole and "keeping his nose clean", then let him be. Just maybe he is trying to turn his life around, and as long as he isn't bothering or threatening anyone, what would be the point of making his life more difficult than it already is? Printing out his record and flaunting it in his face will serve no purpose at all, other than to inflame the situation. Let sleeping dogs lie. Only if he does step out of line, should you feel the need to take defensive action. JMHO of course.......

Couldn't agree more...printing it out and taking it to him has got to be the dumbest thing I have ever heard.

[pomtzu]

Couldn't agree more...printing it out and taking it to him has got to be the dumbest thing I have ever heard.

Consider the source...........

[CountryWolf07]

Couldn't agree more...printing it out and taking it to him has got to be the dumbest thing I have ever heard.

Agreed!

[sparks19]

Couldn't agree more...printing it out and taking it to him has got to be the dumbest thing I have ever heard.

AGREED

WHAT on EARTH would that accomplish? Do you honestly think if he had ill intentions that your "threat" would SCARE him? and if he DID have ill intentions all that would do is put him on the defensive and likely make him angry.

YEAH great solution.

Leave well enough alone. He seems to be trying to keep his distance as far as no hand shaking and backing away from the door before you answer etc etc. He obviously thinks that you are already aware and he's on probation so it seems he's trying very hard to keep himself out of situations that could be misunderstood

As long as he leaves you alone then I would leave him alone. no need to start a war over it.

you know I always found it kind of funny that ANY thing classified as a sex crime is broadcast for the rest of your life but if you murder someone and don't get life in prison... no one KNOWS except your victims when you get out.

burglars.... robbery... assault (non sexual)... etc etc you aren't put on a list for everyone to know (as far as I know). only if you commit a sex crime. when all those people could do worse to you.

anyway... just leave him be unless he starts acting inappropriately but don't do what marigold suggested. that is the WORST thing you could do especially as a single female living alone.

[Puckstop31]

AGREED

WHAT on EARTH would that accomplish?

Either a $100,000 video for America's Funniest. (stupid women gets pwned by reality)

OR

A rather unnecessary obituary.

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When confronted by a bear, the last thing one should do is poke it, unless you are prepared to kill the bear.

[Cataholic]

I don't like those lists. I don't like the mandatory classification or sentancing that goes along with it for some of the reasons listed already. I didn't read the conviction sheet, and even if I did, I doubt I would be able to positively comment on the charge and facts without reading MI's criminal code.

I think people should be smart, period. I would't invite an unknown male into my home, and probably wouldn't invite in unknown female into my home. I am talking about uninvited unknowns. If I called the roofer to give me a quote, that is different. I also wouldn't have children of parents that I didn't know into my home, either.

Our criminal justice system is set up so that once you have served your time, your debt to society is over. You are to have been rehabilitated. A second chance, a fresh start- whatever it is called. People that get these labels for the rest of their lives are subject to double jeopardy, in a way. They can't get a job, they are limited in where they live, the stigma follows them like no other crime. Heck, a murderer (not sexual) gets a fresher start than a sexual 'predator', someone that "raped" his girlfriend or wife.

I am in no way condoning ANY crime, and of course have a particular hate of crimes against children, women and animals. When you consider that most sexual predators or sexal crimes are those in which the victim and the accused shared a close relationship prior to the crime, I think random 'drive by' molestations are rare.

None of this means don't be smart. But, I would go about your business the same way you would with any 'stranger'.

[Asiel]

Leave things alone and don't stir up a hornet's nest. As long as he is living by the rules of his parole and "keeping his nose clean", then let him be. Just maybe he is trying to turn his life around, and as long as he isn't bothering or threatening anyone, what would be the point of making his life more difficult than it already is? Printing out his record and flaunting it in his face will serve no purpose at all, other than to inflame the situation. Let sleeping dogs lie. Only if he does step out of line, should you feel the need to take defensive action. JMHO of course.......

My feelings exactly. Why in the world would anyone want to print out something as cruel as that and start a war in the neighbourhood. Now that would be asking for big trouble IMO . I agree, if the guy is trying to turn his life around this would certainly be counter productive.
Leave it alone but do keep your eyes open and be careful at all times , if he causes no trouble then you should be fine. Learn a few karate chops in case he does decide to pull a fast one