My neighbor... the sexual offender

[ramanth]

That said, missy, when's the PT meeting gonna be at your house?! That'll scare ANY sexual offender away!

LOL!!!

In the past Kia has growled at two men (strangers). But she also tucked tail and ran when my dad jumped out from behind a tree at a friend and I in the middle of the night. So I guess it'd be 50/50 with her.

I'd actually be more worried that someone would seriously hurt them if they did interfere.

Thanks again for all the feedback everyone.

I'm not going to quote everything, I'll just touch on some points.

I'm not out to make this guy's life a living hell. Frankly, he did that himself with the choices he made.

According to him, he's lived there 9 months (which I'm sure is the truth as it coincides with his parole date). Kids have been playing in the street and riding their bikes. As far as I can tell everyone on the block gets along and things do seem calm. The last thing I want to do is get on this guys bad side and stir a hornets nest.

I'm not sure what other neighbor he mows the lawn for. I'm not sure of the radius on his GPS ankle bracelet. He can obviously come onto my entire property without it going off.

I do not want to confront him unnecessarily. If he continues to keep to himself, all the better for me. But if he tries to cross a line, I'll let him know in no uncertain terms am I interested and that I'd like to be left alone.

As for the house, I'm locked in. It's a contract with the government (HUD). I must live in the house for one year. Can't be rented out. Can't be sold. After a year, I can do whatever I want with the house.

I'm not going to let him force me to move anyway. I like the house and I like the area.

He knows I have the dogs, but I never told him they were friendly. They look and act friendly, but he has no idea if they've been trained to attack. I'll keep it that way. And Staci is right, a third dog just isn't in the cards right now.

I plan on getting ahold of the parole officer and introducing myself and explaining how I've moved in and if there is anything I should be on watch for.

I'll look into self defense classes in the area. Many friends and my grandma recommended ADT so I'll give them a call as well and get an estimate.

[captain]

Kim,
Do a self defence class - I have been practising Martial Arts for over 25 years, and it becomes second nature - which is what you want.

I think if you keep your distance, and he is keeping his, things will work both ways.

AND

If you do have a PT gathering, invite Gini (and she can invite all the firemen she knows!!!) and Phred (who can do the same)

Hehehehehe

Take care
M

[caseysmom]

Just remember you pass these kind of people all the time and don't know it, one should always be aware and careful. It is creepy living next to him but hopefully he wouldn't want to risk his parole.

Tell him you have a boyfriend if it comes up and he lives there but he works odd hours or something, then he won't know when he is there.

[shais_mom]

if you do have a pt gathering, invite gini (and she can invite all the firemen she knows!!!) and phred (who can do the same)

hehehehehe

take care
m

i'm there!

[moosmom]

My friend rented her downstairs apartment to a woman and her daughter. My friend noticed that the mailman accidentally put mail for the tenant in her mailbox. Turned out the return address was from a maximum security prison. It seems the prisoner it was from, is the baby daddy. After doing a little background check, we find out he's a registered sex offender. She asked my friend if he could move in with them when he gets out of prison. I told her that unless her Mom wants her address listed as the home of a sex offender, the answer would be "oh hell no!!" She told her that her lease specifically states only she and her daughter are allowed to live in the apartment. There's been so much chaos going on, loud company, cigarette butts strewn all over the property, late rent, that her mother has decided not to renew her lease. Very wise on her part.

[pomtzu]

Leave things alone and don't stir up a hornet's nest. As long as he is living by the rules of his parole and "keeping his nose clean", then let him be. Just maybe he is trying to turn his life around, and as long as he isn't bothering or threatening anyone, what would be the point of making his life more difficult than it already is? Printing out his record and flaunting it in his face will serve no purpose at all, other than to inflame the situation. Let sleeping dogs lie. Only if he does step out of line, should you feel the need to take defensive action. JMHO of course.......

[Catty1]

I am SURE the neighbourhood already knows. He has kept his distance so far - and you are safe to keep yours.

Take all the normal precautions you would regarding locks, alarms, etc.

Although his crime was unspeakable, he is paying for it with a GPS bracelet - a life of distance from people. Imagine living with Big Brother on your ankle all your life.

Not making excuses for the guy - just that he has a life no on would envy. I hope he "recovers" - that is a horrible thing to live down and to get rid of.

[shais_mom]

Leave things alone and don't stir up a hornet's nest. As long as he is living by the rules of his parole and "keeping his nose clean", then let him be. Just maybe he is trying to turn his life around, and as long as he isn't bothering or threatening anyone, what would be the point of making his life more difficult than it already is? Printing out his record and flaunting it in his face will serve no purpose at all, other than to inflame the situation. Let sleeping dogs lie. Only if he does step out of line, should you feel the need to take defensive action. JMHO of course.......

I wish PET TALK had a LIKE or DISLIKE on here like Facebook does.
b/c I would LIKE this! I agree that printing out the info and flaunting it in his face is unnessary. Why try to start trouble where there isn't any? And then Kimmie will be branded as a $hit-stirrer, and she hasn't even hardly moved in yet!

[Karen]

I wish PET TALK had a LIKE or DISLIKE on here like Facebook does.
b/c I would LIKE this!

Oh, but Staci, we aren't as interested in collecting all your personal data and preferences for our own financial gain like Facebook is! I rarely "like" anything on Facebook, as the less anonymous entities know about me, the better!

[caseysmom]

Leave things alone and don't stir up a hornet's nest. As long as he is living by the rules of his parole and "keeping his nose clean", then let him be. Just maybe he is trying to turn his life around, and as long as he isn't bothering or threatening anyone, what would be the point of making his life more difficult than it already is? Printing out his record and flaunting it in his face will serve no purpose at all, other than to inflame the situation. Let sleeping dogs lie. Only if he does step out of line, should you feel the need to take defensive action. JMHO of course.......

Couldn't agree more...printing it out and taking it to him has got to be the dumbest thing I have ever heard.

[pomtzu]

Couldn't agree more...printing it out and taking it to him has got to be the dumbest thing I have ever heard.

Consider the source...........

[CountryWolf07]

Couldn't agree more...printing it out and taking it to him has got to be the dumbest thing I have ever heard.

Agreed!

[sparks19]

Couldn't agree more...printing it out and taking it to him has got to be the dumbest thing I have ever heard.

AGREED

WHAT on EARTH would that accomplish? Do you honestly think if he had ill intentions that your "threat" would SCARE him? and if he DID have ill intentions all that would do is put him on the defensive and likely make him angry.

YEAH great solution.

Leave well enough alone. He seems to be trying to keep his distance as far as no hand shaking and backing away from the door before you answer etc etc. He obviously thinks that you are already aware and he's on probation so it seems he's trying very hard to keep himself out of situations that could be misunderstood

As long as he leaves you alone then I would leave him alone. no need to start a war over it.

you know I always found it kind of funny that ANY thing classified as a sex crime is broadcast for the rest of your life but if you murder someone and don't get life in prison... no one KNOWS except your victims when you get out.

burglars.... robbery... assault (non sexual)... etc etc you aren't put on a list for everyone to know (as far as I know). only if you commit a sex crime. when all those people could do worse to you.

anyway... just leave him be unless he starts acting inappropriately but don't do what marigold suggested. that is the WORST thing you could do especially as a single female living alone.

[Asiel]

Leave things alone and don't stir up a hornet's nest. As long as he is living by the rules of his parole and "keeping his nose clean", then let him be. Just maybe he is trying to turn his life around, and as long as he isn't bothering or threatening anyone, what would be the point of making his life more difficult than it already is? Printing out his record and flaunting it in his face will serve no purpose at all, other than to inflame the situation. Let sleeping dogs lie. Only if he does step out of line, should you feel the need to take defensive action. JMHO of course.......

My feelings exactly. Why in the world would anyone want to print out something as cruel as that and start a war in the neighbourhood. Now that would be asking for big trouble IMO . I agree, if the guy is trying to turn his life around this would certainly be counter productive.
Leave it alone but do keep your eyes open and be careful at all times , if he causes no trouble then you should be fine. Learn a few karate chops in case he does decide to pull a fast one

[Bonny]

I have to agree with Pomtzu leave well enough alone. The guy has to live with what he has done & sometimes people learn the hard way & turn their life around. Lets hope he is doing just that. I would still be cautious make sure you lock your doors, & windows, put in an alarm system if you can afford one ( I don't know what something like that would cost?) Make sure you have a contact tact person (someone you can call & they can be there for you if you need help) in case something would happen. Get to know your other neighbors too. Just be careful & play it safe.