My son is engaged!

[prechrswife]

Congratulations to your son! As for duties, the big thing my MIL did was put together the rehearsal dinner, and my in-laws paid for our honeymoon.

[Marigold2]

Congrats to all. A happy and stressful time for sure.
Years ago the grooms family paid for all the drinks at the reception but rules have changed so much. Grooms help pick out wedding dresses, many parents are divorced and there are step mom and step dad and half and step siblings.
I would invite her parents and the kids over for dinner and ask what you can do to help. Some families have a lot of money, some don't.
When son 3 got married hubby and I did the pictures for them. When son 2 got married I spent a ton of money at Bed Bath and Beyond.
Maybe your son wants to go on a honeymoon that is extra special and you might want to help pay for that or maybe a down payment on a house.
So many opinions..............So again my advice is to get together with the kids and her parents and see what they need and want and go from there.
And then enjoy this special time. It's gonna be great.

[moosmom]

I agreed to pay for the photographer. I give my daughter $100 a month to put into an account for that purpose. The photographer is $1300. I also want to surprize her by paying for her wedding jewelry, which is customer made to her specifications. $365. That will come out of any pet sitting jobs I get.

It IS a stressful time for all. Little details. I asked them where they want to go and found out they want a cruise to the Caribbean. They're on their own there. Ex-hubby is paying for the reception.

[Pinot's Mom]

"Ask Nicole if there's anything you can do to help, and be gracious if she says "No, thanks!" "

Best advice I could think of, Karen, I totally agree. Leave it up to them how much you should be involved, just let them know you're supporting them and will be there if needed.

Congratulations to you and the happy couple!