Mystic is gone! :(

[luckies4me]

Originally posted by mugsy
I'm not trying to be mean here, but you opened yourself for judegments when you posted on a public forum about your problems. Trust me, I know what it's like to be stuckat home. I was stuck at home and not allowed to leave for over 2 months last year when I broke my leg. I do know about financiial problems. but I don't post it on here. Not judging, just telling you that when you post things like that, people get upset.

I am really sorry that Mystic is hurt and I think that people's reactions are in response to his injury. I'm sure that a vet somewhere would allow you to make payments to them. We do that all the time.

I wish you luck on your current dilema and hope that it all works out in the end. I'm truly sorry about your step-mother's death and your father's illness. Illness and death are never easy to deal with.

Thank you. I was not trying to post my personal information I was just concerned about my cat and stress and turned to the forum for support, like most people here do. Thanks again.

[Cataholic]

And here I was, all excited to finally hear about Mystic's good news, as I saw you had posted several more times..and you couldn't even put your bitterness aside to post it.

You could manage to post to defend your position, but couldn't be bothered to post the news that originally started this thred. Something is not quite right about that, you know?

[luckies4me]

Originally posted by All Creatures Great And Small


If this happens every November and December, you should be putting away money from January until October then. If you are getting THAT much of a tax refund, you are paying too much in taxes and should re-calculate your withholding so that you have that money to save all year. Why let the government hold it for you interest-free until spring? Lower your withholding, and then take that money and put it in the bank to use when things slow down. As far as you working, you could work nights when Dan gets home so he could watch Dylan - not work as a vet tech, since that's a day job, but work ANYWHERE - McDonalds, KMart, a gas station, whatever. (I've worked in retail for years, and I am not ashamed and don't feel it's "beneath me" at all.) It would be pure income since you won't be paying out anything for childcare. When my daughter was a baby, that's what we did - he worked days and I worked nights. It would probably do you good to get out of the house anyway, to lower your stress level. I can sympathize TOTALLY with being trapped in a house with no car and a baby all day. You shouldn't be so defensive, because you obviously DON'T know what you're doing at this point, since these financial problems are an annual problem. That may be why your family does not want to offer you any help anymore, since you are not open to suggestions on better ways to manage your money. We had the same problem with my sister, and if we suggested that maybe she could manage her money a little better, she'd bite our heads off. Eventually we had to do the "tough love" approach, and let her work things out on her own to learn a valuable lesson. We are all here to offer sympathy, of course, but we are also here to offer HELP, in this case in the form of good financial and/or lifestyle advice, and we are all here to promote the proper care of pets, too. A lot of us were sickened by the thought of that poor cat suffering with that broken leg and nothing being done.

We have been saving money all year, we always put away $50 dollars every month. But for some reason a lot ofbad things have been happening lately. We had $700 dollars saved, which we were going to use for a months rent or utility bills. But after my step mother died, my father had no money. For some reason the government will not give him his SS. So in order to keep my dad in his trailor I sent him our savings. This way he can at least buy food for two weeks, keep his electricity on etc. That money could have been for Mystic, but I didn't know that when I sent him the money we would be needing it. Again, my father has cancer (amongst other things) and cannot work. He wears a morphine patch everyday. He needed my help and since he brought me into the world I owe him. Same as Mystic, which is why I did not just leave him suffer, but I will explain more on that later.


As for night jobs I have done that already. I just quit in September. I worked nights as a janitor cleaning a Title and escrow company three night a week and made $6.50 an hour. When I left I moved back to California. I then came back here. I am expecting a call next Monday from Ruben, the owner of the company. I am hoping he will hire me back. It is VERY hard to find a job right now in Oregon. Even the gas stations aren't hiring. We aren't allowed to pump our own gas. We live right next to the University and most the college kids take our jobs away. I was excited when I got that job I was talking about but again, things did not work out and we could not find a sitter.

Please explain taxes to me. I have no idea about them. All I know is that my bf claimed Dylan last year and we got back around $2,000. So if you can explain more I would appreciate it.

I never ask my parents for money unless I am in dire need, which has been ....probably in four years. Yes I know you are sickened by Mystics condition as am I. Iam doing all I can for him. I even called the Humane Society and they couldn't help. As for his leg, I am not sure it is broken, all I know is that it is swollen. He is now eating, has gone to the bathroom and is walking around. I have put him on antibiotics just in case it is an abscess, although I see no bite wounds. If I did not care about him I would not have post.

[luckies4me]

Originally posted by Cataholic
And here I was, all excited to finally hear about Mystic's good news, as I saw you had posted several more times..and you couldn't even put your bitterness aside to post it.

You could manage to post to defend your position, but couldn't be bothered to post the news that originally started this thred. Something is not quite right about that, you know?

You didn't let me finish. Please let me finish next time before you assume something. Of course I am going to tell you all about his condition. What do you think I am? Why wouldn't I tell you? You just need to be patient. And as you were writing this I was responding...

[luckies4me]

Originally posted by Cataholic


...And, to think anyone of us would care, read, write, etc., to you, and have you make the above statement. That is immature, irresponsible, and just plain childish, not to mention hateful. You need, as I posted before about someone else, a good old-fashioned swift kick in the pants to get off your self pity mobile. Trust me, the road you are on is bumpy, hard, and not made any easier by whining.

What's childish is people cutting someone down without knowing all the details and just assuming something. To me it was already made clear that was all people wanted to do, cut me down and not focus on the cat.

[Cataholic]

Originally posted by luckies4me
I was going to tell you the good news I had for all of you, but obviously you all would rather tell me how I cannot fford my pets and how I don't provide for them!

Oh, I am sorry, I must have completely and totally misread this post that was written nearly five hours ago...exactly how long does it take to post something? Why don't you just 'fess up, admit you were acting out of haste and anger, apologize and move on?

No one assumes anything. You write the facts about your life, not us.

[Cataholic]

As I said earlier, you are just so busy defending your position, and not thinking clearly.

[luckies4me]

Originally posted by All Creatures Great And Small


I sincerely hope that these rats are for immediate resale, and that your breeding enterprise is bringing in a profit. If you are adding these to your private menagerie, then you really need to re-think WHY. I also agree that your last post was very immature, and a slap in the face to anyone who sent you money and would appreciate knowing how it was spent. Hopefully you will have the grace and good manners to PM those persons and thank them, and let them know about the cat. I guess the rest of us will have to content ourselves with not hearing about it's pain and suffering any more.

I have not bred a litter since July. I only breed when I can afford a litter of kittens, and only when there is something I can sontribute to the lines. As for the Du's I canceled those. As of now I only have 10 rats. I used to have around 40. My degus are gone, my chinchilla is gone etc. They have all been rehomed.

As for PMing those people, yes they are being update everyday. I am not a rude slimy person. I just don't take peoples money and not say thank you. I sincerely appreciate all the help. I really do and Mystic will be very thankful as no he was diagnosed with bone cancer this morning and needs chemo or his leg amputated. Any money will help him.

[luckies4me]

Originally posted by Cataholic


Oh, I am sorry, I must have completely and totally misread this post that was written nearly five hours ago...exactly how long does it take to post something? Why don't you just 'fess up, admit you were acting out of haste and anger, apologize and move on?

No one assumes anything. You write the facts about your life, not us.

I have been at the vets all morning!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Uabassoon]

I'm a little confused

As for his leg, I am not sure it is broken, all I know is that it is swollen. He is now eating, has gone to the bathroom and is walking around. I have put him on antibiotics just in case it is an abscess, although I see no bite wounds. If I did not care about him I would not have post.

15 mintues ago you weren't sure what was wrong with him all you knew was that his leg was swollen.

really do and Mystic will be very thankful as no he was diagnosed with bone cancer this morning and needs chemo or his leg amputated. Any money will help him

And now he was diagnosed with bone cancer? I'm not saying that it's not true, just wondering how in 15 min it went from all you know is that his leg is swollen and now you know he has bone caner?


Does this also mean that the good news is that he has bone cancer? You told us there was good news. That doesn't sound good at all.

[Cataholic]

Originally posted by luckies4me


As for PMing those people, yes they are being update everyday. I am not a rude slimy person. I just don't take peoples money and not say thank you. I sincerely appreciate all the help. I really do and Mystic will be very thankful as no he was diagnosed with bone cancer this morning and needs chemo or his leg amputated. Any money will help him.

And this was Mystic's GOOD NEWS? And, since the people just posted about sending you money- TODAY, what are you talking about? You are updating them? Are we talking about the same thing??????? Are you taking money from people on PT for other things???

[Cookiebaker]

Originally posted by luckies4me


If you people would read the whole thread Wolfy is not mine!!! He was my spycho ex boyfriends sisters dog who got abandoned. My bf kept the dog while I was still living there. When he tried to kill me I was in the emergency room for two weeks, then I moved back to my parents who lived in a VERY small apartment. I could not take the dog, not to mention I had a restraining order against him and was not going to risk my life breaking into their house. The dog is also unsocial because they never took him anywhere for the past five years, which mind you I was not there. He is still there and yes inthe same circumstances but I am getting a phone card today so I can call the Humane Society and have him and his sister removed.

Does this remind anyone of a soap opera, or is it just me??

[Cataholic]

Originally posted by luckies4me
I was going to tell you the good news I had for all of you, but obviously you all would rather tell me how I cannot fford my pets and how I don't provide for them!

This is exactly what you said- what GOOD NEWS are you talking about? Mystic's bone cancer?

[Cataholic]

Originally posted by Cookiebaker


Does this remind anyone of a soap opera, or is it just me??

With the absolute deepest hesitation I say this...are we getting the truth, the whole truth, and 'nothing' but the truth here???

[luckies4me]

Originally posted by NoahsMommy
You may not be able to remove yourself from your situation like we can, but you really need to.

You, above all, have a CHILD to look after. You need to have a life where you can provide for him. I know you've said that you can and do...but not having money for gas is NOT providing for your son.

Don't think I don't know what you are feeling....my hubby and I had to scrape together five dollars last night for him to get to work and back today. I am in the same boat this month...but I don't have children...and my cats have food and vet care.

I'm sorry if these comments sounds mean. I am speaking from experience being a child advocate. This is a very sore subject in my heart. So, please forgive if I sound too harsh...

I know you think you are stuck, but you really aren't. You say your parents and your bf's parents wont lend you money. I would imagine that stems from you asking in the past. I would also assume if you laid out a plan to fix your current problems and show them some action, they would be more than willing to help. I also know, that churches have ways to help you too. You need to do something about your situation. Its much bigger than not being able to afford the vet bill this month.

You said that without contact with your family, you would go insane. WHY are you in Oregon then? If you aren't married, what is keeping you there? (Not that that should matter, the happiness of you and your son are most important.)

You need to see that the people here are trying to help. We not trying to be mean and ruin your day. We do actually care...

My son has food, diapers, clothing, sicks, shoes etc. My cats are up to date on their vaccinations, wear collars with identification, are fed Science Diet every day which there is still plenty of (we buy a whole bag so it will last all month) and get care when they need. Ihave never had a problem before. Well once I did, and that was a few months ago with my rescued kitten that I bottle fed from the time she was 5 days old.I spent $600 dollars on her care. When Mystic was a kitten I spent $4,000 dollars to keep him alive. He need oxygen, to be fed from a tube etc. and was in the hospital until he was two months when I could finally take him home.

As for being in Oregon, I just got back. I was there all September and decided to come back because Dylan needed his father and I did not want to force myself upon my parents. My son was not happy there and neither was I and so I left. I do know you all care, but you have to understand that I amhaving a lot of things happen lately and am VERY stress, now with Mystic diagnosis I am even worse. I amnot asking for sympathy or whining, all I am asking fori s a friend to comfort me when I need it the most, right now. I know you care, thank you.