ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics) is a wonderful group of people who don't have a drinking problem, but live with people who do.

I attended MANY ACOA meetings in my day, along with AA meetings for myself. If you can't afford a therapist, this is one way to help. My Dad was a 24/7 drunk (mellow not abusive). I was his primary care giver after my stepmonster died of alcoholic complications. It took it's toll on me. Especially since I was in recovery myself, it was difficult to see him drink himself to death every day of the week.

Call information and ask for the toll free number of AA. They can refer you to meetings in your area.

Good luck and you'll be in my thoughts and prayers.