Woman aims for 1000 pound weight goal

[Medusa]

I am always saddened that women are so damaged by society's expectations of beauty that they are willing to hurt themselves further, either physically, psychologically or both, to feel "beautiful" or worthy of love.

Don't be cruel regarding this woman's issues - she feels she has nothing else to offer since she cannot live up to the standards of beauty. Those of you who have never had issues with weight do not understand. It's not as simple as "go on a diet" or "just stop eating so much". As with any addiction, there are both organic and psychological issues that must be addressed. And sometimes it can only be "corrected" to a certain point. There is a huge prejudice for fat people and it makes me sad.

Society gets the blame for everything, it seems, nowadays. I taught exercise/aerobics classes to morbidly obese women for years. They're called "morbidly" obese for a reason, b/c the morbidity rate is much higher than those who are simply "obese". The women that I taught w/o exception told me that they wanted to lose weight for themselves and not b/c society says that they must or their husbands are unhappy or whatever. They all said that they feel better when their weight is down and looking better (in their eyes) is a plus. She's purposely gaining weight b/c she's found her hook, i.e., what can generate income for her w/o giving up her food.


Who says that she feels she has nothing else to offer b/c she cannot live up to the standards of beauty? If she said that, I missed it. We coddle and nurture our weaknesses rather than try to change. We use words such as "curvy", "voluptuous", "plus size", "glandular", "big boned","cultural","foodie" rather than saying "fat" b/c we don't want to be looked upon as being cruel. So are there no more fat people in the world now?

The women in my classes never made excuses for themselves. They worked really hard to get the weight off and keep it off. We'd review what they had eaten for the week and I can recall one woman writing on her food list "11 bags of noodles". I said "Did you mean to write "11 helpings?" and she said "No, I ate 11 bags". The only thing I could think of to say was "Why?" She said "I love noodles". I said "So do I but 11 bags?" She said "I know. But you want me to be honest". I asked if she was depressed and that's the reason for eating so much. She said "I'm depressed b/c I'm fat, not fat b/c I'm depressed".

We can make excuses forever but unless and until we stop doing that, obesity will always be a problem. Obesity will become the new normal. We all have our weaknesses; w/some it's food, w/others it's alcohol or drugs or sex or shopping or whatever. None of us is perfect so we can't point a finger at anyone else for their weaknesses. However, this woman is generating income from her overindulgent eating and there are those who are pandering to her. How discouraging to those who are trying so hard to get their eating under control.