My divorce was ages ago, and a picnic compared to what you two are going through.

I don't recall losing friends...possibly because my ex and I did a do-it-yourself kit and were reasonably amicable about the whole thing; there were no 'sides' to choose.

But I wonder if it could be the type of things that happen when someone dies? People don't know what to say, what to do, and just 'freeze'.

Maybe these friends DID tell you that they weren't available any more or something...then again, hard as it is, maybe some contact and reassurance from you would be an idea? Even suggesting something they could do like meet up with your for coffee or lunch?

I know I am second-guessing them, and that is totally not right...I just hope you have even one solid friend come out of this.

Gayle, I think once the court case is over for you and all the factual abuse and other evidence presented, there WILL be people afraid to phone you, and totally ashamed of themselves, at that.

HUGS to both of you.