Info on bankruptcy, pls

[rosethecopycat]

Gratefully, there is nothing in both our names. I will file the signed quitclaim deed with the Clerk of Courts on Monday.

As I peruse the internet about bankruptcies, I only assumed that he would be in Chap 13. He could be in Chap 7 (but I think his income is too high-there is a loophole about tithing, which allows 15% to go to charity, if that puts you under the income limit)
And then there is Chap 11, which I had not considered. He files taxes as a sole propriatorship so that might be his option.

My view about 'taking sides' has kind of been like - I'm not looking for friends to do that, even though he was the one who cheated on and abandoned me.
But, imagine this, if he were to have died, I probably would have 'heard from' just about everybody. And I haven't and I'm not going to at this point.
I hear of this statistic that 90% of people look at adultery as 'unfavorable' and the other 10% are his friends, I guess.

Particularly sad is the MIL & FIL, with whom I was very, very close. She never wanted to hear what I had to say. She said (through him) from the get-go that she would be bias towards her son.
I learned that blood is thicker than water.

His parents must be so impressed with him that 6 months ago, he owned a home with me, free and clear, and now he's in bankruptcy.

I am just lucky to get away as unscathed as I did.

[Catty1]

My divorce was ages ago, and a picnic compared to what you two are going through.

I don't recall losing friends...possibly because my ex and I did a do-it-yourself kit and were reasonably amicable about the whole thing; there were no 'sides' to choose.

But I wonder if it could be the type of things that happen when someone dies? People don't know what to say, what to do, and just 'freeze'.

Maybe these friends DID tell you that they weren't available any more or something...then again, hard as it is, maybe some contact and reassurance from you would be an idea? Even suggesting something they could do like meet up with your for coffee or lunch?

I know I am second-guessing them, and that is totally not right...I just hope you have even one solid friend come out of this.

Gayle, I think once the court case is over for you and all the factual abuse and other evidence presented, there WILL be people afraid to phone you, and totally ashamed of themselves, at that.

HUGS to both of you.

[momcat]

The Bankruptcy laws can be pretty complicated, I deal with them on my job fairly often. Karen is absolutely right, get some legal advice before you start the process. If you can't afford an attorney, contact your local legal aid office. You might also check to see if any law schools offer legal clinics. The Bar Association is also a good place. If any of these resources say they can't help you, be sure to ask if they know who can. I hope things work out for you.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Rose, I don't know anything about bankruptcy info but I just wanted to say that I'm so sorry that both you and Gayle are going through this. I guess in this kind of situation you really do find out who your true friends are. I'm always here for emotional support if you need me. Please take care. (((HUGS)))