Sorry to hear about this BS Splitting up/divorce can be so ugly! This is usually when you see just how nasty your partner can be & after a while you'll realize that you are much better without them.

My dad gave me some wonderful advice when going through a divorce/split up.. Never raise your voice, never get mad, & be 110% civil. In the long run you'll feel better about the situation, & if you go to court the judge will see your being civil (polite, etc) & that the other is a wild animals. When your polite & civil, the judge will make more favorable terms. My mother was a psycho & dragged me through hell & back. My dad kept his cool, never spoke ill of her & when SHE broke the law & was being a *cough* in court, the judge looked at my father & favored him.

I don't know you, but if you have kids, please keep them out of the mess, never talk about the divorce/splitup with them (the ugly parts), keep them out of court, & never speak ill of their father/mother you're no longer with.

My mother stooped so low as she tried to FORCE me to lie about my father. Her, her lawyer & CSA wanted me to say my father was sexually abusing me. I told them "but he didn't", the worst I got from him was a red butt from doing something really bad (playing on the road type of BAD thing.. I was allowed to be playfully noisy & run around playfully - with civil rules of course)... They told me they didn't care, they just needed me to say that he did... They even tried to bribe me with my dog's care Low eh? Well she killed that dog & I haven't spoken/seen to her since 2003. To this day, it still bothers me & this BS started about 10yrs ago... I've been in hiding since 2005 & very few people know where I live & very little to no mail/bills come to my door. Trust me, this isn't a fun way to live, hiding from your psycho mother....

^Just my 2 cents^... I have no idea of whats going on with you, but I hope things get more civil.