She thought she HAD told me...she told me (again) when I called her at the hospice. Maybe I just didn't "hear" it at the time.

What brought the subject up was when I asked about the funeral, and was told there wouldn't be one. She said she couldn't get up in front of all those people and lie...I was puzzled, and the story came out. She honestly thought I knew.

But as she said lately, as I paraphrased:
As their daughter said, to paraphrase, the Lord has now somehow made all things new and right again.
ETA: I have known this family since the 1980's.