SO sad...is there no one without a skeleton?

[king2005]

So sorry to hear

The gay thing isn't an issue in my books, Even if he was married the gay thing might have just been a fantasy. A lot of people have them but never ever ever ever want to act on it, other do.

[moosmom]

There was a doctor in Ct, Dr. Reardon, who lived in a beautiful house in West Hartford. Dr. Reardon died and his house was sold. The new owners went to break down a wall to open up an area. They found THOUSANDS of slides of children in all forms of undress and in sexually explicit poses. The families of the children are now suing his estate, as well as St. Francis Hospital, where he was on the board and was also a practicing physician there.

All sorts of adults are coming out of the wood work now, claiming they were abused and photographed by this guy.

UGH!!!

[Marigold2]

This is so sad. So sad. One truly never knows a human or a monster in a human's body. That is why I always say I would rescue an animal before a human.
Knowing what you do, will you remain friends or have you not gotten that far yet? You must be in shock.

[Catty1]

Marigold...this couple died, within 8 hours of each other. He was 86, she was five days shy of 86.

I had phoned their daughter at the hospice, and we had a good talk...that is when I found out about the past abuse.

I had had a good phone conversation, if short, with the mom a few days previously. If I had known before - would I still consider them friends? Hard to say. They both were there for me after a horrible night at a music gig I had in their area.

As their daughter said, to paraphrase, the Lord has now somehow made all things new and right again.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

As their daughter said, to paraphrase, the Lord has now somehow made all things new and right again.

Brave girl

[pomtzu]

Candance - I'm not defending anyone here - but do you know what was said about this old man to be an absolute fact? Are you hearing it from just the one daughter, or are there more people saying the same thing? Sometimes, for whatever reasons, stories can get fabricated when the "guilty" person can no longer defend himself.

I'm not saying that happened in this case, but it would give me something to think about if I were in your shoes.

[Catty1]

pomtzu - I know what you mean. When I look back over the years, there were hints...when the one grandaughter I knew well grew up and got married, Pappy and Jennie told me her husband wouldn't let her visit them. They figured he was a Christian man, so the GD did as told.

The last visit I had with them, Pappy sat down and told me about his time in the war - doing guard post in the Asian theatre, waiting for the slightest sound, you'd have to shoot in the dark or get shot...he admitted to hitting Jennie at least once after he got back, he was in such bad shape.

"Pappy, she doesn't need to hear this," Jennie said.

"Yes, Jennie," I said, "I do." I thought it was more I needed to hear from our veterans what war and their lives were like. I recently thought that there was more Pappy would have told me, but dementia was just starting to take hold.

I have known the daughter and her husband too; Pappy and Jennie lived in the other half of their house, that was renovated for them. These are not people to make things up.

I talked to the daughter on the phone - she was with her parents 24/7 at the end; so was her husband, supporting her, getting food for her. She thought she had told me.

After their deaths, she emailed me the link to their obit, and asked if I would post in their guest book. She had had a total change of heart, flooded with forgiveness. Her parents had ministered to many, many other people through the years, including some individuals in jail. (Pappy was a raunchy teen and young man, and knew a bit of jail.).

There were two postings there, and then there was mine. They had lived in a small town...and I guess no one cared to post, not even people from their church.

God's figured it all out by now.