Why I Have Deleted Posts and Threads

[Karen]

Rudeness is not acceptable. I did not take it that he was attempting to start an argument, just saw it as a comment, and knew he had been away for a while and didn't know much of what has recently transpired.

Never, ever post that you think someone is trying to start an argument. Even if that was not the poster's intent, that's a sure way to escalate the situation. The better thing, if you think someone HAS posted just to make trouble, is to PM me.

[Cataholic]

^^ Calling someone "Dragon Lady" is seen as just making a COMMENT?

I can call someone an AH, and it is "just making a comment?"

Come on. That is such baloney, and you know it.

[Karen]

No cussing is allowed on Pet Talk, you know that. And I think "AH" is much ruder than "Dragon Lady."

[Grace]

I think they are both offensive. Actually, Dragon Lady might be more so - it is a very personal comment/attack. AH is used so much in the world that it is impersonal.

JMHO, of course.

[Cataholic]

Oh. I see. Some people are allowed to call others names. Some people are allowed to say AH. Some people are allowed to post offensive posts.

It is just so hard to follow these rules.

[Karen]

No one is allowed to call names, really. "AH" spelled out is not allowed, and neither is the abbreviation, if I catch it. I try to keep the same rules for everyone. Yes, I sometimes make mistakes, but you can always PM me if you have a concern. I think that "AH" - although too commonly used, is far more offensive than "Dragon Lady." As I explained to the person who was called a "Dragon Lady," I have always seen it it as sort of a back-handed compliment, connoting a woman who is admirably strong, but with whose opinions you may disagree. I think Margaret Thatcher, for example, was often called a Dragon Lady in the press, again, particularly by those who disagreed with her.

When in doubt, PM me. Or use a word or phrase you know is less offensive. And of course, posting in anger is never a good thing. It's best to be avoided.

[Cataholic]

Oh, brother. Right, it is a backhanded compliment.

Good grief.

[Lady's Human]

As I explained to the person who was called a "Dragon Lady," I have always seen it it as sort of a back-handed compliment, connoting a woman who is admirably strong, but with whose opinions you may disagree. I think Margaret Thatcher, for example, was often called a Dragon Lady in the press, again, particularly by those who disagreed with her.

PM Thatcher was referred to as the Iron Lady. The Dragon Lady of recent historical note would be Madame Chiang Kai Shek, or Madame Ngô Đình Nhu, First Lady of South Vietnam.