Boo Bear and Coco Puff; update 1/2; a weird update; post #41

[Laura's Babies]

This is so heartbreaking and they do grieve like humans do. I have no advice to ideas on what you could do other than to pay far more attention to them than ever.

Just a thought here and maybe it is a way out thought.. You took Pidge out of the house and she never came back.. Could they be afraid you will take them away and never bring them back?

I would contact Nancy and see if there is anything you or she can do to help. We never had any idea how bad Mama's death traumatized Boo until she told me that. Pidge being taken out and never brought back has surely traumatized them. Maybe they need to know YOU miss her too and are grieving just as bad as they are. Nancy said Boo just wanted to be heard and have her feelings known so we would understand HER feelings and that made all the difference in the world for me and for Boo. I think Nancy could help! It is worth a shot if it could help them and YOU! Maybe Pidge might even come through and talk to them and let them see she is alright now. I would do it in a heartbeat.

[Catty1]

I know you have talked to Boo and Coco Puff - if you haven't, add that YOU wanted to bring her home too, and were as broken-hearted as they are that she didn't come back.

I don't know if Boo would "get" visiting her grave with you holding him.

Poor dear baby...hugs and loves to him. At least you are there for him to hug tightly when his poor heart hurts so bad.

Prayers for the kitty hearts to heal - and yours too!

[Medusa]

I've sat w/Boo on my lap and I've also held him and rocked him while standing. That's his favorite; he loves it when I throw him over my shoulder and he lets his legs hang down, secure knowing that I'm holding his little butt. I've told him that I cried, too, b/c I miss Pidgie so much, I've told him that she misses us as well but that she's happy now and not sick or old or in pain. I've told him that he doesn't need to be afraid, that I'll always take care of him, that I'll never leave him and that he will see Pidgie again one day. I've said it all, talking to him as I would a dear child. For a while I thought I had gotten through to him b/c he was acting closer to normal but last night was so sad. He actually trembled when I picked him up and held him close. Tonight, though, he wanted to go downstairs to sleep instead of going to bed w/me so I let him. I don't want to force him to do something he doesn't want to do even though I'll worry about him b/c I won't be able to reach out and pet him to reassure him. I sure hope his little broken heart mends soon b/c this is really breaking mine.

[katladyd]

As if your pain is not enough to bear, you have to witness Boo's pain, also! Sometimes life is very cruel. My prayers are going up the Big Guy to heal both of your hearts!

[Medusa]

As if your pain is not enough to bear, you have to witness Boo's pain, also! Sometimes life is very cruel. My prayers are going up the Big Guy to heal both of your hearts!

Thank you. I'll get over it b/c I have reasoning. Boo Bear, on the other hand, worries me. He's on my lap right now and he's purring so I guess he's doing ok right now.

[Laura's Babies]

Just keep talking to him and loving him. Maybe hold him while you cry and let him see your tears and hear your pain too. This is just so heartybreaking and sad...

[Anikaca77]

Mary-

I'm so sorry to hear about Boo Bear wailing now. I remember when Anika passed and I took her out of the house but no one seemed too upset. Maybe because I have too many? Not sure why, some seemed semi-sad but nothing else. My prays that Boo Bear heals soon and comes to you for some comfort.

Melissa