Sorry I've been late in seeing this too, Sandie.
My heart goes out to you, as I've been in this situation more times than I care to count. I'm almost in tears remembering the frustration. It's an all consuming situation. I keep an eye on my 91 y.o. aunt, who's in a nursing home, near me, for UTI's and often find myself telling the facility what the problem is. My folks suffered from them often.

Oops...didn't mean to hijack. I just want you to know that my heart and prayers are with you. You are not alone and I wish I was closer to give you a hug. You are a good daughter. Bless you.