Hello Again, COTD May '09 Update

[catmandu]

That is sad that Tiger Lily had to move, but thats the best thing for her to be the Alpha Cat, and is better for her former roomates as well.
At least shes where hopefully you can visit.

There are some Cats who have to reiign as Top Cat

[Freedom]

Hard as it is, this does sound like the right decision -- and not only for Tiger Lily but for your entire clowder.

It is nice to have you back; I love your siggy pic!

[Pinot's Mom]

Some of these decisions are heartwrenching, but you did all you could, and it worked out for the best. Welcome back! I love the siggy, too!

[Momto4FemaleFelines]

Thank you for your kind words and compliments on my siggy pic!

We tried for over a year to make it work with Tiger Lily. Pretty much her whole story is told here:
http://cats.about.com/od/feralcatsre...ersey-Kitties/

At first, it seemed Tiger Lily was going to fit in okay. But then after several months it seemed she and especially Molly were fighting for alpha position, and sometimes Kit would get in on the skirmishes as well. We were kind of hoping the ultra sound would've shown a kidney stone and that if there was one, removal would stop the health issues and we could just tackle the behavior part, but alas it just wasn't to be.

Unfortunately, Tiger Lily is not close enough for us to visit, but I have heard from her new family and she's doing well.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Welcome back. I'm sorry to hear that you had to rehome Tiger Lily but you did the right thing. Some cats need to be only cats. I had to rehome my cat Cirrus several years ago because he also wanted to be the alpha cat but my Storm wasn't going to back down. Now he's in a wonderful home that even has an outdoor cat run. He does share it with 3 other cats and a pug but there's plenty of room for him to have his own space. I hope that you'll be able to keep posting on PT and I look forward to hearing more about your cats and seeing many pictures of your cats too.

[Laura's Babies]

We have to do what is best for our babies, and sometimes it is giving them up. It sounds like it has improved everyones quality of life so you know you did the right thing.

You still have 4 so when you have time, come and post pictures of them and tell us what is going on with them.

I gave my Chester to the one he loved the most, the one HE choose to be his human and it was the best thing I ever did for him. He is so happy now and everyone loves him so much there. I get to see him when ever I go visit (which is often) and it took a long time for him to quit running to hide when he saw me because he thought I was going to take him away from his Rie Rie. Now he no longer runs and hides from me so I can still love on him and see him whenever I want!

[Momto4FemaleFelines]

Krazyaboutkatz,
Thank you for your reply. It is so nice to find people who've been through the same thing and who understand.
If it was only fighting, we may have continued to try things, but with the stress causing the discomfort of the cystitis for Tiger Lily, it just wasn't fair to keep trying because WE wanted to keep her with us.
I went through a lot of guilty feelings in my heart, even though my mind screamed at me that we did the right thing in re-homing Tiger Lily.

I do plan to post more regularly here now! Looking forward to becoming familiar with all the humans and kitties here!